TheEdger Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 I'm a 19 year-old student in my 2nd year of college and this is really my first gf; we've been officially dating for only 2 weeks. Never even kissed a girl in HS. Yes, I'm still a virgin. My gf (met through a friend) however, will be graduating June 2nd. She just turned 18 towards the ending of April and also is a virgin. Today she has told me that her father finds it rude that I haven't bothered introducing myself and would like to have a word with me before our next date. He just found out that we're dating. About me: I can still be kind of shy around new people esp someone else's family member. I have never in my life spoken with a girl's family, not much father before. Help..... I'm nervous of coming off as either too quiet, bookish, accidentally saying something stupid, too confident, etc. I'm so nervous. I want to make the best impression possible. I didn't mean to sound rude by not introducing myself. Don't want him to think I'm some type of player.
Gaeta Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 He is not leaving you much room to breath isn't he. You've just been dating for 2 weeks. You've got to do what you've got to do. Next time you have a date go pick her up, bring along your best manners and introduce yourself. You don't have to entertain him, just be polite to what ever he says. 3
Author TheEdger Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Thank you Gaeta, I'll bring the best manners ever. I hope it all goes fine. I'll be counting my prayers before going in. My best friend has been telling me to just relax and that I'm overthinking this too much. I guess but he's not like me. He's a very confident guy and had lots of experience. I'm not him and this is new to me.
d0nnivain Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 He's being a dad. He's concerned about her safety. He wants to meet the guy who's dating his little girl. He also wants to intimidate you -- at least a little bit. It's a way dad's think they can assure the boy in question will respect their darling daughters. Bring your best manners. Shake hands hello & be respectful. Whatever you do, don't talk about sex. If she is given a curfew get her home early. 1
Potz4prez Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Bring him some gun oil and be like "I figured you'd be cleaning your shotgun, so..." 4
Author TheEdger Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 You're right donnivain, he's just doing his job but hopefully as he gets to know me, he'll be able to trust me and see I want to make his daughter happy. He won't have any problems with the curfew. I'll bring her home even 10 minutes before it. I'm always on time, actually earlier than the time. 1
Author TheEdger Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Umm Potz4prez you do have quite a sense of humor.
Anna21 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Don't be nervous her father just want to find out if you are nice guy However you should have met him before 1
jbelle6 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 My father was very strict. He expected to meet boyfriends as well. But if I was sneaking around for 2 weeks behind his back with some boy, I'd be the one in deep trouble. He would side eye the guy for sure when he did meet him (if he let me keep seeing him) but he wouldn't blame just the guy. You'll just have to make a good impression when she does introduce you. 1
Author TheEdger Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 Thanks Anna21 and jbelle6. Our next date will on the following day after her graduation in the afternoon. Well, I'll update how it goes. Hopefully it goes good. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Bring her a graduation gift; you will score huge points with the dad. It shouldn't be anything over the top . . . I'm thinking small stuffed animal wearing a motar board. 1
GorillaTheater Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 He's being a dad. He's concerned about her safety. He wants to meet the guy who's dating his little girl. He also wants to intimidate you -- at least a little bit. It's a way dad's think they can assure the boy in question will respect their darling daughters. Bring your best manners. Shake hands hello & be respectful. Whatever you do, don't talk about sex. If she is given a curfew get her home early. Good advice. He's not going to try to be your buddy, at least not at first. He'll probably be polite, but he'll be sizing you up and letting you subtly know that he'll beat you to death with a gravel rake if you hurt his daughter. At least, that's the way I am with the guys my daughters bring home. Treat it like a job interview with a little extra edge involved. 2
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