STM206 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 It's my birthday today and my ex emailed me wishing me a happy birthday. I never expected to hear from him ever again and was almost sure I would never get a happy birthday email from him. I guess they do remember sometimes after all.
organizedchaos Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 It's my birthday today and my ex emailed me wishing me a happy birthday. I never expected to hear from him ever again and was almost sure I would never get a happy birthday email from him. I guess they do remember sometimes after all. Happy birthday! Did you ignore it?
Author STM206 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Happy birthday! Did you ignore it? I had every intention of ignoring it and still do. I just need to let my heart and brain battle this one out. Logic seems to be winning though. It's so weird, even a simple "happy birthday" email signals those "see! He remembered, he does love you" thoughts. Pretty annoying to be honest. However it made me feel good for the moment. >.< 1
mangetout Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 But it doesn't mean anything in the long run. So is it worth a reply? I ask myself that as my bday is coming up in two months. I wonder whether my ex will text me and I wonder what I would do. I would prob stay NC because I am still peeved off that he left me
stillfiguringitallou Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Honestly I think the whole NC sometimes sends the opposite message of what we think. I think the proper response is to say "I appreciate that you remembered, thank you for the well wishes." Something simple and to the point that doesn't indicate you want them back. 3
Always Pondering Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Wow! So it turns out he did message you! Yeah, your heart tends to use any excuse possible to put more hope into you about situations and it becomes really silly sometimes. I wish I was in your position just so I could ignore it. Happy Birthday by the way! 1
Author STM206 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Ugh. Okay remind me again why the hell an ex who left you and wants nothing to do with you would send you a happy birthday text? Like if I were in his shoes I sure as hell would bother sending a text. :/ Dammit heart, get your **** together. 2
learning_slowly Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 On the plus side he did remember. I never remember birthdays of people when I'm seeing them! However I have got in contact with ex's before, and it's been because I felt I wanted to be there for them. Since visiting this site, I realise it would have been best not to, but I don't think it's common knowledge.
PhillyConnection23 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Ugh. Okay remind me again why the hell an ex who left you and wants nothing to do with you would send you a happy birthday text? Like if I were in his shoes I sure as hell would bother sending a text. :/ Dammit heart, get your **** together. Definitely not a popular opinion here and after reading enough of your comments I would encourage you NOT to contact him. However, I read today from some story (I was bored during a meeting and started googling relationships stuff) and read an anecdotal article saying birthdays are the easiest/low pressure day to contact an ex. If I was him, I would be thinking that enough time has passed since the break up that now I can reach out and say something to you in a friendly, casual way. He probably doesn't realize how much he is hurting you or the mixed signals...guys are dumb.
FredJones80 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 It's my birthday today and my ex emailed me wishing me a happy birthday. I never expected to hear from him ever again and was almost sure I would never get a happy birthday email from him. I guess they do remember sometimes after all. Bah, you got one. I got **** all and it was only 3 weeks after we split lol. It seems a bit of an oxymoron "happy" and birthday when you're still in pain. Ignore it, please Happy Birthday btw! 1
Author STM206 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 Bah, you got one. I got **** all and it was only 3 weeks after we split lol. It seems a bit of an oxymoron "happy" and birthday when you're still in pain. Ignore it, please Happy Birthday btw! Trust me you don't want these kind of breadcrumbs. Once the initial high wears off, it's like "what the hell do I do with this?" I haven't replied, but his birthday is a few days after mine. Goddammit!
Itspointless Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Happy birthday. I did something like stillfiguringitallou recommended you when I got her message. The month after she wrote that she had not heard from me for a long time and wondered how I was doing Well ...
Author STM206 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 So I'm half and half on replying now, I don't want to come off cold or harbor any resentment. I figure if I do reply it'll be on his birthday. Something short and simple.
PhillyConnection23 Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 So I'm half and half on replying now, I don't want to come off cold or harbor any resentment. I figure if I do reply it'll be on his birthday. Something short and simple. If you can respond with something basic like "Thank You." With 0 expectation he will reply or if he does reply and you understand he is only being friendly, then do it. If you can't handle that, then don't. 2
elseaacych Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 So I'm half and half on replying now, I don't want to come off cold or harbor any resentment. I figure if I do reply it'll be on his birthday. Something short and simple. Tell him "thank you?" On his birthday???? But for real though, NO NO NO NO NO. No contact= happier birthday for you.
Marco Valerio Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Honestly I think the whole NC sometimes sends the opposite message of what we think. I think the proper response is to say "I appreciate that you remembered, thank you for the well wishes." Something simple and to the point that doesn't indicate you want them back. Yes, you should thank him for the message and continue with your life. =)
Author STM206 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 So I replied this morning. Basically just said thank you, hope all is well and happy early birthday. 1
rec88 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 So I replied this morning. Basically just said thank you, hope all is well and happy early birthday. Right on, all that needs to be said. I got the same thing and at first my thought was wtf is she thinking? NC does not mean 'except on my bday'... I said thanks and a week later I forgot it even happened. Keep on keepin on
PhillyConnection23 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 So I replied this morning. Basically just said thank you, hope all is well and happy early birthday. I've gotten the "Hope all is well" line 3 times now in e-mails. Glad to know someone else is using it and I shouldn't think too much into it.
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