spaceboy409 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Ohhh man today was really really hard. I have not talked to my ex in over a week in a half which is a good start for me. Out of the blue when I wake up I have a text from her asking if I wanna spend the day with her dog cuz me and the dog were very close. My first reaction was to absolutely not even respond. But then eventually I just did saying I dont think its a good idea and it would be too painful. I then said a few min later though that I would love to see her one last time and just kiss her goodbye and maybe get some closure cuz we ended on strange terms... She then responded with I can't.... I dated this girl for a solid two years and we have only been broken up a month and she now has a new boyfriend... this was absolutely heart crushing to me...I couldn't eat all day, work was miserable cuz I was so stuck in my head with anxiety, I felt sick, and I still feel so damn blue.... I felt I was on a good track...the week we didn't talk it was like a vacation and I even felt happy a few times...now I feel absolutely miserable again how do I bounce back??? I was so angry I sent her a ton of mean messages and just blocked her number. I know it was probably dumb but goddamn I was really hurt.
Poppyolive Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 That's ****ty. I'm glad you have no blocked her. What a dumbass of her to text you to look after her dog. She should of left you alone. Get back into no contact, in a way it's a good thing because you now know the little contact you had today caused you so much pain and she doesn't care. Take care of yourself. Go treat yourself. Do something you've always wanted to do.... 1
Poppyolive Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 And reading your back story get some help for your drinking. Priority no. 1
loveiswar101 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Yep, I broke contact after 5 weeks (longest id been) she gave me false hope of meeting up. But all my imput. Had worst weekend in ages. Back on NC and so should you. Already 3 days later and I feel better and hopefully you will too. Best wishes.
Greeneyegemini Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 As a noob here, I'm finding the best way to deal is to stay in NC. I was on day 8 today, hadn't heard from my ex at all in the entire 8 days. I went temporarily insane and decided to text him something funny. When he didn't reply I called him twice....then texted him once more telling him that I accepted his decision, wasn't trying to get back with him and just wanted closure. Which I feel like I never got. He never replied. He is either extremely good at NC, or has me blocked i don't know. But getting the NC treatment and also being a dumpee is sucky...even though it IS for the best and I know that. ANYWAY. What I'm trying to say is. Don't break NC. Even if my ex had messaged me back...it wouldn't be what I wanted to hear and I'd still be bummed out. I'm just taking it one day at a time and trying to avoid being "the crazy ex"... 2
Author spaceboy409 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 today wasn't much better. No contact though. Sadly she works at a venue I frequent and play as well. She just got the job after we broke up, not to mention her boyfriend is guy that goes to the same shows. Its really all a disaster and a terrible situation.... :(
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