My MIL is sending annoying emails again should i tell my husband?

[Poppygoodwill]

Why is she emailing you in the first place? hwy not just email your H?

[beatcuff]

<snip> i don't know how to make her stop with the emails <snip>

 

my original advise stands: "he is fine, i will let him know." cut, paste, repeat.

 

why --- BECAUSE SHE WILL NOT STOP.

 

ignoring/blocking her will only turn her against YOU. right now she is fully aware her son has 'walked away'. her anger is directed at him, and her frustration is evident in her emails to you (exhibit A: first was angry second was pretty please). shut her out and she will focus her anger at you: you destroyed my relationship with my son, you drove him away, etc.

 

yes, this is a bad situation. you are playing [ice hockey] goalie for your H without a mask.

 

its time for long chat with......... H.

 

your anger should be at HIM. he is hiding behind you. only he can resolve this. he needs to call, he needs to 'lay down the rules/law', he needs to respond to her emails, he needs to (fine) "tell her off".

 

good luck.

[hotgurl]

snowflower, beatcuff:

my MIL is overbearing, my husband has a relationship with her he just ignores from time otherwise she will drive him insane so he lets ME do all the work. My husband is fine, she knows it, if she was so worried why does she just not call the house to speak to him directly instead of sending me a bunch of emails every month? Seriously, she had no problem calling the house when she needed money, or when she was in a fight with her husband, so why can't she just call to talk to him if she is so desperate, she is just an overbearing dramatic lunatic who makes everyone miserable around her, she won't be happy even if she has my husband sitting next to her at night holding her for her to fall asleep she is that type of person not because she is worried about my husband and been military. Her own husband was military and gone for many years which she should get the idea by now, my own MOTHER is not this way with my brother, when i have kids believe me this is not how i will behave, when you are grown you have to let them BREATHE.

 

thanks guys, she is just needy needy and always has been but now is getting ridiculous and she disrespected me i was always kind sweet to her it was not always likes this and i always was there for her even at 3-4 in the morning That is how bad it was until one day i had it when she disrespected me and insulted me after how kind i was to her.

 

Guys i HAVE responded to her emails and she just Does not get it, My Husband has spoken to her and she continues these little remarks every month am growing tired, she is just needy and this is why i am frustrated already, i HAVE told her a gazillion times just call the house and talk to him whenever you want to talk to him, email him contact HIM and she still tries to be dominating with me to TELL my husband this and that when she can do it herself, my husband and her are fine and have a relationship she is just dramatic and i don't know how to make her stop with the emails she is so rude.

I never would stop my husband from having a relationship with her, but i will not tolerate her disrespect. So my husband can deal with her and for her to leave me out of it, but after a million times that i have told her email him call him etc she still emails me to tell him to call HIS mother like really>?

 

I would just mark her emails as spam and let it dump into your junk box. If all she is doing is emailing you it is relatively easy to ignore.

 

You know her emails are going to be rude and get you upset so why even read them?

[down hearted]

Thanks everyone, i took your advice i just ignored her emails, so of course she called the house and my husband picked up, she immediately put his dad on and they spoke, he said to his dad please tell my mom to calm down and stop with the emails (she emails him, he just chooses to never answer or never read them since he knows what to expect or what not, so then she emails me) I told my husband she is rude and am getting sick of it, so anyway he was talking to his dad and saying she has a way of asking of things and she needs to tone it down. (he has told her a billion times 1 and nothing not going to change) i was actually pissed off hearing this conversation because he was not been serious or having a one to one with her it was just like a "be nice, stop, repeat" this is always the same, it won't change he isn't serious enough and am done fighting with hubby about this and we end up in a heated argument because he says i'll take care of it, and he just ignores her tantrums instead of correcting them. He is going to go visit them in July which am not going (thank goodness:bunny:) I just feel this is never ending my MIL just does not take him seriously.

 

btw: of course his dad also asked about my puppy and where the pictures REALLLYY….. I am here hellloooooo wtf! so rude i wish i can give them a piece of my mind!!! anyway they have not seen me since november, spoke with me, only random emails such as the ones i posted here and yet they ask for pictures of him and the dog oooooo F*****UUUU i am not invisible! sorry just so angry my inlaws really piss me off good thing we don't live close thanks to my husband been in the military

 

Anyways, i am happy to inform i have taken your advices and i am clicking ignore (now that she spoke with him, no emails so far) but i know they will start again and i will just ignore.

 

I told my husband your mother is annoying and rude and i am not your secretary he said to me we are married and i have to assume some of his responsibilities, i said uh no i don't think so am not your secretary to answer your emails, if she wants pictures you send them to her, he said you are the one that takes the pictures and saves them, i told him no problem i'll put them in your computer as well so you can send them, he said that is just double the work just send it to her i said no. I am done been the messenger, and the circle repeats itself because i know it will keep happening, and i know once my husband goes to visit them in July he won't put her in her place, or he will mention something to her and she will wipe her @$$ with whatever he says and when he comes back he won't talk to them for a while and so it starts all over again am growing tired of this crap.