joeyNoelle Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 I dumped my boyfriend 5 days ago....and the night after dumpage i made the mistake of calling and leaving a message saying that i was confused and i never gave him a real chance to say anything much and that i guess i just missed him. the next day he messaged saying he was more confused and we would talk later.... i realized i had made the right decision and the call was just a moment of weakness that night he called...i didn't pick up....the he messaged saying to call him tomor if i wanted I didn't cal then late the next might he messaged saying 'Do you want me to come over...I'm down your way' It seems as though he thinks its not over... like we never had the 'this is just not going to work' me dumping him conversation. Iam a little freaked out..... we were only together 4 months.....when will he realize its over?..and stop acting like we are still together,just going through a rough spot..
Numb Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 When you till him its over, right now he still has that first message in his head and is going with that. Get some balls and call him and tell him its done, period.
roxy_1980 Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 Numb's right. You made it seem like you were getting back together. He's clinging to the hope that you gave him that night. Be straight up and tell him that you still want to break up.
Weird Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 Sweet sassy...you called the guy and implied you were having 2nd thoughts so obviously he is wondering about things after that call. You avoiding him after YOU goofed does nothing but make the guy more confused. Grow a pair and tell the guy you made a mistake and you still want to be broken up.
Barby Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 Exactly, I'm appalled that you would think it's "all him" being in "denial" HELLO?!?!?! Did YOU not in fact call him and tell him you were confused and having second thoughts?? You had the chance to tell him when he called you back that you were wrong and sorry but it's really over, you didn't...again when he messaged you! You are playing a sort of emotional game (even if not intentional) that I'm sure you wouldn't want played with you! Please for this poor guy's sake...at least message him or call and leave a message and tell him you're sorry that you had called in a moment of weakness and that you're sure you made the right decision to call it off.... It's not fair to leave anyone hanging on!
Author joeyNoelle Posted February 14, 2005 Author Posted February 14, 2005 Ok.. so i did it..two days ago i messaged saying..that he shouldn't come over anymore..but would still like to try and be friends..... still the next day he messages me twice..once laying on the guilt trip..and the second then telling me he hopes i have a good valentines day and he will be thinking of me and he hopes i will think of him...and how he misses me. I thought by now he would get the message..see i really did/ do like this guy but the relationship didn't work for me ...so i had to get out of it. I don't want to be cruel and say it over goodbye..leave me alone..coz i would like to be friends eventually..i will see if he contacts me again and then will have to reacess what to say. Do you think this is a good idea?
rachelli Posted February 15, 2005 Posted February 15, 2005 gee....maybe he'll stop acting confused when hyou stop sending mixed messages! what else is he to think when you call him saying it was a mistake to dump him? stop palying games-make up your mind, its beeter for both of you. unless it feeds your ego to lead him on....
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