Mommame2 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 My husband of 13 years and I have been having trouble...no doubt. This past weekend he and our elementary school aged child flew to visit his parents. I had to work..so I stayed back. After picking him up at the airport tonight, he proceeds to tell me about how they sat next to this wonderful lady who they talked to for a long time....who is visiting our state. Husband says "__(child) said he wanted to sit next to her because she's so cute" I took a deep swallow and said nothing. So child proceeds to say "yeah daddy really liked her...he even asked her if she wanted something to eat". Husband replies "well, CHILD I was just being nice...but I did tell you it would be awkward for me to ask her if she wanted to sit next together on the next leg of the flight.." Everyone went silent. Is that as strange as I think it is?
littleplanet Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Sometimes silence speaks volumes. But the aftermath will tell you a lot. (I mean - leaning back toward you - or the other way.) If daddy is acting way too much like he got 'caught' then there's something to address. On the other hand - it could be nothing more than a tempest in a teapot.
firmness Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 I was told in online forums like this many many times that when my ex wife was acting oddly (signs, behaviors, etc.) that I had to look in the mirror and find out what I was doing to MAKE her act like that. I did and I learned a lot.
SolG Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 I once ended up sitting next to an Israeli traveller on a long haul flight. We struck up a conversation and ended up spending the entire journey in a really enjoyable chat fest about the Middle East, Judaism, wanderlust and many other things beside. It was fabulous! When we reached our destination, we even shared a farewell hug. I couldn't wait to tell my partner at the time about it, because it had been so fun and interesting. But I couldn't now for the life of me remember Israeli dude's name, or even what he looked like. Because it was just a random pleasant encounter with a random fellow traveller; completely innocent. Maybe your H's experience was something like this and not really 'strange' at all. And maybe the weird vibe you're sensing is his reaction to your discomfort as opposed to anything to do with his behaviour. On the other hand... maybe you're sense of discomfort is justified and he was fishing :-/ Why don't you discuss it with him?
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