xilver Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 I got blindsided the other day. It started 7 months ago when I met 2 women. One at the gym and one through a friend. The one at the gym I thought was really nice and we had a lot in common but she was married and in the process of separating so I never pursued anything but we gradually built our friendship and would keep in touch or occasionally go for a run, coffee, beer or whatever. The other lady who I will refer to as Satan also seemed cool when I met her and even though I wasn't attracted to her I ended up getting to know her better and since I met her through a friend she always was around. Eventually I found out that she liked me so I started backing away from her. I stopped making plans with her and hoped she would get the hint but she was persistent. She would make me feel bad for ignoring her and when I did finally respond to her it would all start again. The problem started when the gym girl made a facebook page and sent me a friend request. I accepted and then she started commenting on my pictures and wall. No big deal except that Satan noticed the activity on my page and decided to ask all of her friends if they knew who this lady was. She finally found someone that knew her husband. Satan ended up sending her an anonymous message telling her to stay away from her man (which is apparently me) and threatened to give information to her husband so that he could get custody of their kids. I can't believe grown people do this kind of stuff. It ended up coming back to me because she referenced some of the stuff that was posted on my fb page. When she asked me about it I told her who I thought it was that sent the message and to ignore her. Apparently that wasn't enough because she told me that she has to end our friendship. She said if that is a glimpse of what it is like to be friends with me then she doesn't want any part of it. I am so frustrated and unsure what to do. She had just told me she considered me a great friend and I even got her a gift for mothers day. I understand that she is probably scared because she doesn't want problems with the kids and her ex. I just don't think I got a fair shake here. I think she is overreacting. It's like the past 7 months meant nothing compared to this one incident. Should I be thankful that she is leaving my life now? Better to know that she will not think twice about ending our friendship during some adversity. Or should I pursue and try to reason with her because good friends are hard to come by?
jbelle6 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 LOL, infidelity would not affect child custody unless she had an affair with a junkie who left bags of cocaine and hypodermic needles on the coffee table or something. So that's just silly, plus, how would they prove an affair that did not occur? Block that batcrap crazy stage 5'er from LIFE. Block her on Facebook, on your phone, email, everywhere. She obviously has dummy accounts on facebook so make sure all your privacy settings are set for just friends. Then you have to tell her to stay the hell away from you. If she keeps following you and harassing you I would tell her you will get a restraining order. She is nuts. I hope that once you get the freak out of your life that your nice friend will come back. I bet she will come around when this all dies down and you can tell her that the other woman is out of your life. I feel bad you have to deal with this, I had a boyfriend once that messaged all the male friends i had on facebook, got into my account and deleted a ton too. Made me look terrible.
Author xilver Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 Yeah I don't know exactly what was in the message but I do know it was threatening. She said she wasn't worried about it either because she didn't do anything but I'm sure she doesn't want her ex finding out stuff about her personal life either. Lol stage 5er huh? Yeah she went from annoying to someone that I genuinely hate. Thanks for the support I hope you are right.
Author xilver Posted May 30, 2014 Author Posted May 30, 2014 I've had about a week to think about this. Now I get a text from the friend who dumped me over this. She wants me to please tell her if I know who is behind the messages. I guess they won't leave her alone. The thing is now I'm at the point where I don't know who to trust. I miss my friend. The one I had before all this started. Now because she bailed on me I don't look at her quite the same. I was trying to help her a week ago when she first told me about it and then she suddenly said she couldn't be my friend. It was a surprising blow to me from her. I mean I didn't do it. She assumed it was someone I knew and I kind of agreed. I'm still not absolutely sure who it was. The girl I think it is emphatically denies it of course. I mean anyone can see those FB posts. I have my reasons for who I think it is but she has friends on there too and she's the one that is married not me. I'm not sure how to respond or if I should help her.
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