alexwood Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 whenever i get my heart broken i turn into a bad horrible person. i dont know why i sya hurtful and horrible things to the person and push them away forever. i cant figure out why i do it. its happened twice. they both left me for another guy and i just lose it and sya mean things like if theres any chance of being friends in the future or gettibg back together i ruin it why do i do this? i know its immature...i never say anything mean but when i get my heart broken its awful
d0nnivain Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 You are hurting & lashing out. You want the person who hurt you to hurt as badly as you do. On some level it's human nature. Next time you get hurt, learn to walk away rather than lash out. What you are doing probably doesn't matter in the long run because you can't truly be friends with an EX & its improbable that you will reconcile, especially if you are being left for other guys. 1
hoping2heal Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 You haven't learned to exercise control when it comes to your emotions. A good way to practice is to recognize when you're in a heated moment (whether it's with an ex or whatever it is) and become aware of what you're feeling and what you want to do or say, and remind yourself of why it's a bad idea to do it.
stillfiguringitallou Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 First - Are you saying hurtful things that are not true - to try an hurt them. Or Are you saying truthful things that may hurt them. See I don't agree with everyone else here on this. I think if someone treats you poorly and wants to give you a laundry list of all the things you've done wrong that gives them a reason to give up and walk away - then they are being immature if they don't expect you to respond. However. If you're saying things for the express intent of hurting them - and not because you want to explain to them where you stand - then that is immature - and I'd say you probably have anger or self esteem issues you should address. We all do things we aren't proud of. I had to realize my fear of abandonment caused me to push people away whenever they pulled away. Sort of a "you don't want me - well I don't want you either" thing On the other hand - my ex used my fear of abandonment to control me. And while I said hurtful things to him - and I am not proud of the fact that I lost control of myself (first time in two years of this) I also have lost no sleep over the loss of the relationship as he still refuses to acknowledge his part leading up to it.
Author alexwood Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 (edited) You are hurting & lashing out. You want the person who hurt you to hurt as badly as you do. On some level it's human nature. Next time you get hurt, learn to walk away rather than lash out. What you are doing probably doesn't matter in the long run because you can't truly be friends with an EX & its improbable that you will reconcile, especially if you are being left for other guys. i seriously hate it. i undertand its dumb thinking we could be friends or get back together but i dont know i just hate that i lose my cool and they see an ugly side of me especially my last ex. i thought she was the one. then i found out shehad slept with 4 guys during our relationship and had strung me along i let her have it i would think about it laying in bed and lose my cool and text or call her and just let her have it i know its immature but i didnt know how to get rid of it Edited May 27, 2014 by alexwood
KaliLove Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 i seriously hate it. i undertand its dumb thinking we could be friends or get back together but i dont know i just hate that i lose my cool and they see an ugly side of me especially my last ex. i thought she was the one. then i found out shehad slept with 4 guys during our relationship and had strung me along i let her have it i would think about it laying in bed and lose my cool and text or call her and just let her have it i know its immature but i didnt know how to get rid of it She slept with 4 other guys during her relationship with you? And you feel bad for getting angry at her??? I'd have let her have it too! What a dirty sl*t..I hope you went straight to the doctor and got tested for STDs... 3
jbelle6 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 4 other guys? Yikes. I'm a super calm person but if someone put my health at risk like that and betrayed me that badly, I would not go quietly. That's just gross. It's one thing to leave for someone else since there are usually problems but people are afraid to end things. There is no excuse for ongoing cheating the whole time. I am so sorry she put you through that. But why the hell would you want to be friends with THAT? I'd want to set her on fire and put it out with a rake. 4
Author alexwood Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 4 other guys? Yikes. I'm a super calm person but if someone put my health at risk like that and betrayed me that badly, I would not go quietly. That's just gross. It's one thing to leave for someone else since there are usually problems but people are afraid to end things. There is no excuse for ongoing cheating the whole time. I am so sorry she put you through that. But why the hell would you want to be friends with THAT? I'd want to set her on fire and put it out with a rake. yeah i said some petty bad stuff
Natsume21 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Not quite sure you know what the meaning of "Friends" are. Definition of a friend: Not this bitch. You're welcome.
Author alexwood Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 i just regret lashing out....it makes the last impression seem like im an *******
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