TrueSmiles12 Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 check out my previous post for some more info: Search: Seems like a second chance... But I'm not really sure... i basically need a lot of help moving forward. what seemed like a second chance was only temporary. this guy is just not made for relationships, of any kind. we were very much pseudo together, so very close to getting into another committed relationship with each other, and BAM! deja vu all over again. he ended things by becoming more and more distant, avoiding having to spend time with me, avoiding contact with me, aka making me feel like hell. when i kept confronting him about his negative attitude and actions towards me, he just kept saying that he didnt know what wanted, still. we had basically gotten back together after he broke up with me in the summer and i was so hopeful that we were going to work out our differences and have things be great again. boy was i wrong. i was willing to do any and everything to show him that i wanted this second time around to work. he wasnt. he even, once again, made me give him space to think about things about a 2 weeks ago. a week later, he just ended things. and once again, we're in this crappy phase, where we're not friends, but we're not lovers. he says he just needs time to figure out what he wants. doesnt that sound hopeful? it does to me, at least. and everytime i've recently tried just to see if he wanted to watch a movie or chill or something, he gives me the same excuses over and over again that he doesnt feel like walking over to my place, that hes tired, that hes buried with work, etc. and it hurts so much. does he not realize that? he treats his acquaintances better than hes been treating me. WHY?! i know more than anything that i just need to move forward. he's obviously confused and confusing. but im still hopeful and it's really frustrating because he doesn't want me to hate him and sometimes he tries to have small talk with me, but then he says that he "eventually" wants to be my friend and wants to get to know me again. but he just needs "time off" from our "situation" so that things don't just revert back to the way they were, when things were so tense between us aka arguing. i'm just afraid that if i completely let go and quit the occasional contact, that he'll completely forget about me, even as a good friend. and i would not be able to accept that, because we have to see each other everyday, we share same friends, and we've been close for so long. and every time that i've given him his space, in the back of my mind i always thought that by doing that, he would just come around because he would miss me. then i'd get so impatient and then i'd break no contact and ask him why it's perfectly ok for him to not care. does he even care about me? he claims that he does, but why is it so easy for him to basically excommunicate me???? help me understand all this please, as well as help me out of this addiction. thanks.
joeyNoelle Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 Honey all i can say is...its OVER...it hurts yes..but it really is over.. if he wasinterested he would be with you.. simple as that....he doesn't want you and you are making yourself look pathetic by trying to get him back when obviously he doesn't want you. Sorry if that sounds harsh but sometimes you need to accept that you are not meant for eachother..if he isn't interested and doesn't care about you being in his life..then you should excommunicate him! even though you have to still see him...even if you have to act like you don't care..pretend he is the last thing on your mind..you don't care and eventually you will begin to feel that way. Start looking around there are plenty of nice guys out there... FORGET HIM!
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