Just maybe Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Hi guys My first post on here and I've found this site really helpful Broke up with my gf 1 month ago, we were together for a year and things ended Bad . She told me never to contact her again and blocked my number... I was gutted and begged her back etc... This just made things worse! I felt really low and was like a **** in a trance, We had no contact for 3 and a half weeks but it was her sons birthday so I sent him a present, to be honest I was not expecting anything from it but we got on well so I thought go for it. The day he got the birthday present I got an email saying how much he loved it. I never replied, 3 days later I got a parcel sent to my house from my ex.. It was 2 items I had left at her house.inside was a note saying thank you for her sons gift and asking if I was ok. She then said our break up was messy and made her sad. This flipped me out and I thought I'm going to see her, so I went to see her and we talked about work etc. nothing about us just random stuff. I stayed for an hour made my excuses and left... I emailed her later and said it was good to catch up, I got a reply and we exchanged a few more emails saying we would speak next week. It felt strange seeing her but I had to do it... I'm now helping her get her car fixed and seeing her on Thursday. I just don't no what's going on.. She has unlocked my number too Any thoughts would be helpful Thank you Thanks
stillfiguringitallou Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 You broke up with her? Make sure it won't happen again - don't lead her on if this is just lonliness. It's not fair to play games with the hearts of others 2
Chi townD Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Take things slow and go into it with no expectations. Ask her out on a date and nothing more. See if she's interested in starting over by dating first and going on from there. However, if she's only interested in friendship, then you're wasting your time. 1
Author Just maybe Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 She broke up with me... It's just a bit odd after saying she will never talk to me again. I'm just thinking why? I would never mess with anyone's emotions
Chi townD Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 She broke up with me... It's just a bit odd after saying she will never talk to me again. I'm just thinking why? I would never mess with anyone's emotions Another thing you have to be on the lookout for is that she has no one else set up in her life. Therefore, she might use you to fill a void, but she's still on the lookout for the next guy and when she finds him, she'll boot you in the gutter again. SO, watch out for that. 2
FortunateSon Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Another thing you have to be on the lookout for is that she has no one else set up in her life. Therefore, she might use you to fill a void, but she's still on the lookout for the next guy and when she finds him, she'll boot you in the gutter again. SO, watch out for that. This is very good advice. She could be a bit lonely, she may use you to fill a void until a prospect comes along and when he does, she will drop you like a bad habit. Beware. 1
Author Just maybe Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 Ok thanks, we are both in our late 30s and I don't think there is anyone else. Personal I think if I dumped someone I would not doing these things. I don't know if she is testing me or just being nice.im going to go nc after Thursday just to clear my head again
Elle1975 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 I have been pondering lately.. would I take him back if he asked for another try? The answer is yes, and no.. in the end it would probably be no.. why would I put my heart on the line again? Why would you? Like Chi pointed it out, she's most likely filling a void.
hoping2heal Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 This sounds like 1 part guilt relieving and 1 part using you because she's in need. How did you end up deciding to go fix her car? I can see this turning into a thing where she has you doing stuff and keeping everything buddy buddy and you feeling hurt and resentful when you learn she wants to be friends but not date again. 1
stillfiguringitallou Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 That sounds like a good idea for now. My ex bread bombed me on Friday - while simultaneously pushing all the buttons - that prior to my therapy and personal growth - would have gotten a reaction out me. I have sent some emails since then - clarifying my position on the argument since as usually he wanted to blow in and say his peace and then go all non responsive when I respond. But I've been NC again for a couple days and I'm getting clarity. They're pretty good at fogging up the real issues when they wanna be. Convincing you it should all be left behind. When the truth is they just don't want to face their own responsibility and the lonliness that comes from their choices.
Author Just maybe Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 After we got talking I said I was having my car fixed and she asked if I could get her a price, that's why I'm picking her car up Thursday from her home. To be honest I just don't get it! I'm going to act all happy when I see her etc. but it's frying my head. Of course I still have feelings for her, but does she for me? I've got to go nc after this as like I said I just don't understand anymore. I think I'm going to need your help on here lol Thanks everyone
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