berry1 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 (edited) I think i should start this thread by saying ive only ever had one girlfriend and it wasn't really a relationship just more of a sex thing. I finished that about 5 years a go no comments on age please and ive never asked a girl out before. Some info about me: im 18 years old 19 in july, 175lbs, 6' Tall. So last week i picked my mum up to take her to do some shopping we gone to a different supermarket than we usually shop in. After doing the shopping we gone to the checkout and not sure how to put it exactly but the checkout girl more than caught my eye. I've met plenty of hot checkout girls and ive never even considered asking them out because there are plenty of hot girls right We had a conversation about the weather and a couple of other things as it was raining really heavily at the time, she smiled a lot we left and as soon as i walked away i was like damn i really feel i should have asked this girl out. Just something about her and had no idea what is was still dont have any idea why i have such a strong urge to ask her out. I gone back to the supermarket the day after just to see if she was their and she wasn't. So i found a further excuse to visit the supermarket again the day after and i seen her again. So i was like i got to ask this girl out so i picked up a dvd and gone to pay at her checkout. We had a brief conversation again she talked about the dvd i was buying said it was really good smiled a fair bit then said its all magical with a big the dvd was about magic btw anyway after she handed me the change reality set in. This girls at work, there is a line of customers behind me, ive never asked a girl out before, why the hell would this girl like me ect ect. Now 4 days later im sat here still thinking about her. Im 99% sure i can see her again if i go back in as she works on the checkouts but reality is i have no indication that she feels the same way as with working on the checkouts its a part of the job to smile and make conversation with the customers right? So seriously im stuck between 2 halfs one part of me is thinking she doesn't give a **** about me im just another customer and the other half is thinking she was extra friendly more than previous checkout staff that have served me. Really could do with some advice here guys and girls im talking a supermarket asda, walmart size. To summarize How the hell would i even approach this situation? its in a supermarket infront of her managers and customers? Should i just leave the situation? read all sorts of crazy stuff online about how to ask a checkout girl such as getting a bunch of flowers, going to her till, after paying saying they are for her. But damn imagine getting rejected first time asking a checkout girl out infront of loads of people. Could just see it getting plastered all over youtube in a week "flower guy asks checkout girl on date and gets rejected" lol. Sorry for the essay Edited May 27, 2014 by berry1
Author berry1 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 Feel like abit of an idiot for posting this now im not a stalker honestly lol is it not a common thing on here to ask out girls at work?
mammasita Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Go back to the store, find something to buy, write your number down and hand it to her when you hand her your money with a smile on your face. Put the ball in her court. If she is interested she will call/text you. You're absolutely right though, don't put any pressure on her while she's at work and there's a line of people behind you. 6
Author berry1 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 Thanks mammasita appreciate the advice very good idea the only issue i can see is that it could show a lack of confidence. Its a very difficult situation to approach because as you said i wouldn't want to pressure her infront of colleagues and customers but also dont want to look like someone that lacks confidence. Any women on here been asked out with a note? if so how did you feel about it? Still not sure though if i should even approach her again as got visions of her shouting security, security this guy is harassing me i'd die in embarrassment lol. I think the problem is that i dont read the signals to well is it normal for a checkout girl or even guy to talk and actually engage in a convo? such as about the products your buying, other than the automated speech that you hear at checkouts "hi how are you" about 60% leave and 40% approach right now
Assasda Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Yeah, the big thing you probably need to work on is your confidence. Why do you even think you'll get "rejected" She may not want to hang out with you, but I wouldnt look at it as "rejection" I just look at it as a thing where 2 people are not compatible. And if she doesnt want to go out with you.... big deal..... You have some more experience to work with... and life is all about experiences. The situation is rough. I had a similar situation with a girl that I see when I go to KFC. and I say to myself, she must be nice to everyone. But she genuinely looks interested in me. I've always been in a relationship at the time though. Just take it easy and go with the flow 1
Art_Critic Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 go get a 20 pack of condoms and some lube and go to her checkout asking out a checkout girl is pretty hard, they are paid to be nice to customers and as a guy sometimes it's hard to tell if they are just being nice to a customer or something else. I would say that you just go ask her if she has a BF and if she says no they asked her out. 1
Assasda Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 go get a 20 pack of condoms and some lube and go to her checkout asking out a checkout girl is pretty hard, they are paid to be nice to customers and as a guy sometimes it's hard to tell if they are just being nice to a customer or something else. I would say that you just go ask her if she has a BF and if she says no they asked her out. Dont ask is she has a BF. Its weak. and, at any rate, she'll tell you that if she doesnt want to go out with you whether she has one or not 1
Charmander Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Just ask her flat out if she would like to go out on a date some time. Being nervous is a good thing sometimes it lets them know you are a human too. I've gotten a date doing it... Not that it went anywhere but if mine said yes I am sure you have just as much of a shot of getting the same result. If this is your first time asking someone out in awhile this is a good way to get started. I know when I have been given just someone's number by girls at the place I work I have one of my coworkers rip them up for me... ( That sounds really awful now that I think about it. ) The reason I mention that is it just doesn't show much confidence if you can't ask them out in person and have to write it down. Confidence is sexy, even if you're shaking while saying it, you're still saying it. The worst she can say is "No" or an iteration of that that still shares the same meaning. Not only that, you'll know immediately if she likes you and their is no wondering afterwards if she'll call or not. Char! (Good luck!) 1
Author berry1 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 Thanks again guys for the replies they are a BIG help because for a guy like me this is a damn awkward situation. Never asked a girl out before and seems like im considering one of the harder situations to try my luck in lol. Assasda your definitely right about the rejection thing i guess it comes back to the first problem of having literally no confidence when it comes to asking women out or talking to females i like for that matter I think as said i got to ask her straight out if she would want to go out as its a direct thing just need to get it over with before i pussy out and dont ask her. Also thinking i better just assume her friendliness and our conversations to be her just being friendly as part of the job but im thinking its still fine to ask her as its possible she could say yes after all she probably wouldn't show if she was even interested as she sees probably hundreds of customers a day. Update on today was that i gone to the supermarket unfortunately 2 hours later than my usual time when ive seen her previously and she wasn't there. Got a job interview tomorrow so could go straight from the interview but asking a girl out in a shirt and dress pants? lol assuming i get the balls to ask when i get to the checkout. The way i see it is that i've got 2 options really Option 1 is to go to her checkout a few more times and feel the situation out see if i get any hints. But if i go to her checkout for a 4th time im sure she will click that either A im a weird stalker or B i like her there are like over 20 checkouts. Option 2 go straight in and ask her out next time i see her, probably the best option but damn im proper worried i will get turned down and look like a idiot infront of loads of people. I'm really complicating this i think.
mammasita Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Holy crap you're way overthinking this. Write down your number and give it to her during check out. You don't ever have to go to that store again if you don't hear from her. No embarrassing encounters in case of rejection. No worries. Just do it. No matter what the outcome, it will build your confidence for the next cute girl you feel like approaching. DO IT!!!
Author berry1 Posted May 29, 2014 Author Posted May 29, 2014 (edited) Ok im overthinking this totally agree think if i keep telling myself its totally pathetic to not have the confidence to do this then i will just do it. Will see if shes in tomorrow just feel kind of stalkerish although i got to pick something up from near that store anyway so suppose its not to stalker like Edited May 29, 2014 by berry1
Assasda Posted May 29, 2014 Posted May 29, 2014 Ask her out after your interview. You will have the confidence to ask her out then. If you dont ask her out after your interview, I dont think you ever will. Definately go for it after your interview
Xenon2 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 you may all think I'm crazy, but i think the condoms and lube thing is hilarious. if she has a sense of humor she's going to think it's funny. make it extra ridiculous though, and if she makes a face be, like I'm just kidding, and then she'll prob laugh. but that is too funny lol. I might do that just to see the reaction on a random checkout girl I don't even like just to report back on this minor work of pure genius. It's Gold Jerry.... GOLD!!!!!
preraph Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 It won't show lack of confidence. Give it to her with a smile and maybe say, I hope you'll use that soon. Be prepared, though, because if she's hot like you say, she very well may be involved with someone at the moment. But maybe she'll keep your number for the future. 1
Koopa Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 I always try to find the cutest cashier when I buy my magnum condoms, its fun but I don't expect to get anything out of it since its obvious I already have someone to have sex with. But sometimes I get flirty looks or a "have fun" as I leave, maybe even planting the seed for a future encounter if we ever cross paths. I don't get why people get nervous when buying condoms, I love it. It's an inconspicuous way to tell people you're about to get laid. Don't be scared the worst thing that will happen is she says no or tells you she has a boyfriend. You are going to get a lot of no's before you get a yes, but when you do get a yes, its a great feeling. I have written my number on receipts at restaurants when I like the waitress, its never worked but it doesn't hurt to try. 1
TB Rhine Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 Keep in mind that if this thing goes sideways, you may have to find a new market to shop at. 1
shet Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 I've done this more than once. A supermarket, a bookstore, and a Lush store. I just ask how long their shift is, when they get off and if they'd like to get a drink. Never worked but never hurt either.
ShastaBlack Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 At your age and in that situation, the best thing to do is just slip her a little note after she "checks you out." Just smile and stay calm and give it to her and say "have a good day!" (or night, or weekend, or whatever) IF YOUR'E BOTH ALONE at the cash register. Ask for HER number instead. Honey, you are 18. The world is your oyster. You need to learn somehow. Dating is so much fun at your age bc the consequences are so low. DO IT! 1
TB Rhine Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 I've found leaving notes, etc. is usually a bad idea. Like basically anything else -- it'll work if you're George Clooney. If you're not, you'll be branded a creeper.
Author berry1 Posted June 6, 2014 Author Posted June 6, 2014 Been changing internet providers so had some downtime with no internet had no idea this thread would get so many replies while i was offline So i got my number ready on a note kind of thing with just the number on as i dont want to ask her for her number with colleagues and customers around. Giving your number to a customer sounds a sure way at getting fired. Anyway ive been going to the store between 5 and 6pm as that was the time i seen her and she has not been working on any days i gone in. Today i was in a rush and was walking through to pickup some water and she was working lol this was at about 10am and she had a huge cue. So i think ive been messing up by going at the wrong time as she could alternate between morning and evening shifts or something. Got my number ready and think confident enough to ask her sort of lol just need to go in when she is working. So im going to start going morning time around 10am will go tomorrow and see If i see her will definitely just put it straight out and say if she would like to go out somewhere. Wont mention how hard she has been to find at work lol. preraph May have gave the wrong idea in my posts she is hot sure but not stunning if you know what i mean. Shes far above average but as i said not stunning enough for me to even consider asking her out till i gone to her checkout. Just something i really was attracted to once we talked. Now i wouldn't consider myself to be overly attractive lol i dont really know as i have never really had women friends guess i will find out where i stand on the scale when i ask her lmao. 100 Percent will ask when i next see her because damn its the 6th now and i first posted this thread in may think i will wreck my head if i dont All the replies are and have been most helpful a big thanks to everyone that has replied so far
nadine5 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Go back to the store, find something to buy, write your number down and hand it to her when you hand her your money with a smile on your face. Put the ball in her court. If she is interested she will call/text you. You're absolutely right though, don't put any pressure on her while she's at work and there's a line of people behind you. THIS!!! is a great idea. It would show confidence, not a lack thereof. I think it would be pretty ballsy of you.
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