drdre Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 (edited) Im not sure I even really have a question but sometimes I like to share what is going on here and get feedback. I met this girl almost 1.5 yr ago via a mutual friend. I thought she was really cute, I got her number, tried to get her out a couple times and it just didn't work. A year later I ran into our mutual friend and I asked if he knew if she was single - she was so I texted her, tried to set up a date twice and it didn't happen (she canceled last min so I dropped it). Long story short, last saturday we finally went on our first date - we were throwing a rooftop party for a friends bday and she was my date. I felt like it went really well - the entire night we talked, laughed and turned out to have a lot in common (both work in IT). We even talked a little bit about how hard it is to find good people (honest, stable, good careers, have their stuff together, etc). At the end of the date, I think I could probably have gone for a kiss but I kinda like this one so I didnt (as a rule I ALWAYS go for it). I did ask if she wanted to grab dinner that following week and she agreed and asked me to text her. Our dinner date was supposed to be this past Wednesday but she canceled due to a last min trip for work (I have no reason to believe she was lying). Having said that, she said she wouldn't be traveling the following week and asked for a rain check. Both because I was a little annoyed and because she has canceled on me multiple times, I sent her this: Here is the deal, I had a great time saturday and I'm obviously interested in you. Since you are the one canceling, Im going to put the ball in your court to reschedule. If it doesnt happen, Ill just take the hint that you are just not that into it. Fair? To which she responded with: Ok, thats fair enough... same place next Wednesday at 7:30? I agreed to the rain check and Im taking this as a big positive. I feel like I cut the bs, straight up told her I was interested and basically told her that if she was interested too that she would reschedule - which she did. Do you agree what my "analysis" or am I reading too much into it? Do I in fact have this handled properly? Would you have done anything differently so far? PS - the convo above happened on wednesday. After that exchange, I didnt really contact her at all till today (sent her a snapchat on sat but besides that it would've been 5 days - was that good/bad? I saw on fb she was out of town with her crossfit gym and I was busy too). We had a few texts over the span of an hour but everything seemed positive (quick responses and hahas). Edited May 27, 2014 by drdre
jbelle6 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 I think it was a bit soon for that. Maybe next time if you were to say "I'll let you enjoy your trip, let me know if you would like to reschedule". Then the ball is in her court without you have to come out and say it. Subtle is nice I think. But hey, you got your date so I'm not knocking you.
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