ariesgirl-328 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 So this is never ending. I seriously thought a year after my breakup, i'd be with someone else and have completely moved on by now. NO. I can't because as soon as I feel like I'm moving forward my ex shows up. Basically we've talked on and off this past year with me begging him to take me back. Finally stopped begging and contacting him around Octoberish I think. We haven't spoken in 3 months now, would have been 6 but he called me from a different number so I picked up not knowing it was him. I was terrible at NC in this time though because I stalked his instagram, and got irritated with myself so deleted my instagram and stopped stalking. In my stalking days, I found out he's dating another really nice girl. Anyways, I got a message on Friday that just said "Hi". NOTHING ELSE. But this ofcourse has had me thinking of him nonstop and I can't figure out his motive......not that I should want to but my brain won't stop thinking. I never opened the message so he thinks I never read it. It was 2 days after his birthday that he sent that to me so I'm thinking he was expecting me to say something on his birthday which ofcourse I didn't. HELL YEAH NC. But I'm tired of these random messages every few months that I can't stop for certain reasons(stupid phone plan) so I need a final solution to never hear from him again! My question is, should I just send him a message that finally says "Please never contact me again. I have moved on and have no desire to hear from you again." or just never say anything and never respond to him or answer his calls? Thanks in advance!
Author ariesgirl-328 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 no help?../: ... guess I'll figure out what to do on my own.
LostConfused123 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Personally, I would completely ignore. I know, easier said than done. Hang in there! ((hugs)) 1
xboyfriend Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Is the goal to actually never hear from him again? If that is the goal, there are ways to make that happen. But I agree with poster, ignoring him is probably the best thing to do. 1
Poppyolive Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 If you reply you are opening a can of worms, he'll reply you'll be waiting for the reply etc.. . Id inore he'll get the picture. 1
Ordinaryday Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 No response is a response: one saying "don't contact me anymore". never ever respond to anything the ex sends you unless it is about them wanting to get back together. 1
ebt100 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 No response is a response: one saying "don't contact me anymore". never ever respond to anything the ex sends you unless it is about them wanting to get back together. And, if so, then what is the response? 1
Always Pondering Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Wow seriously just a "hi"?!? That's so rude. I'm glad you didn't break NC for his birthday though so props to you for that and keep it up! Just ignore him completely, I'm sure he'll eventually get the idea. A long time ago I broke NC twice in a short time frame. Both times she ignored, so I got the message that was implied and decided to respect her space. Not a single word has been said since. 1
Ordinaryday Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 And, if so, then what is the response? well it depends on whether you want to get back together or not. if you don't then just ignore it. if you do be VERY CAREFUL that it is not just a ploy and you are not just a rebound. text back something like "what has changed since I last saw you, and why is it worth my time to hear you out?" and if you are not satisfied with their response ignore them, 1
Author ariesgirl-328 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 wow thank you all for the responses! I was seriously typing out my text to him right before I decided to come here once more and check for help! I won't be answering him ever then, unless he makes it clear that he will do anything to make us work. Thanks!
noob_saibot Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 im going to tell you what to do. and you will do it. and he will come begging at your feet, and you will tell him to F off. number one. you already told him that you dont want to lose him. ok. HE KNOWS THAT HE KNOWS that you want and will do anything to be with him he is keeping you on the side just incase his new lifestyle back fires. what you need to do. suddenly change. turn into, i dont give a F mode. dress up pretty, post pictures on FB , have fun. take pictures with guys. you dont have to date people to have fun,. just because social. when he knows you moved on he will text you again. and beg for you. but when he does this just tell him you have moved on to greener grass. hell realize what hes done
Author ariesgirl-328 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 im going to tell you what to do. and you will do it. and he will come begging at your feet, and you will tell him to F off. number one. you already told him that you dont want to lose him. ok. HE KNOWS THAT HE KNOWS that you want and will do anything to be with him he is keeping you on the side just incase his new lifestyle back fires. what you need to do. suddenly change. turn into, i dont give a F mode. dress up pretty, post pictures on FB , have fun. take pictures with guys. you dont have to date people to have fun,. just because social. when he knows you moved on he will text you again. and beg for you. but when he does this just tell him you have moved on to greener grass. hell realize what hes done ^^ well I can do that ofcourse(would have to be alot more social for that to happen) but isn't that just playing games.. I want him, but I'd rather it be that I just forget and move on with my life and he moves on with his...I gave him enough **** in the relationship..don't want him to have to beg me anymore
jbelle6 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Hi? 2 letters? Sorry, you don't owe him a response for 2 letters. Being all dramatic with the "don't contact me" stuff shows you give a crap, if you didn't, you'd block his number. Simple. 2
chados Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 im going to tell you what to do. and you will do it. and he will come begging at your feet, and you will tell him to F off. number one. you already told him that you dont want to lose him. ok. HE KNOWS THAT HE KNOWS that you want and will do anything to be with him he is keeping you on the side just incase his new lifestyle back fires. what you need to do. suddenly change. turn into, i dont give a F mode. dress up pretty, post pictures on FB , have fun. take pictures with guys. you dont have to date people to have fun,. just because social. when he knows you moved on he will text you again. and beg for you. but when he does this just tell him you have moved on to greener grass. hell realize what hes done You've been doing some studying I see. You do have a point to make your ego boost sky high. But it's not always that easy. It's hard to play games with someone you actually like or did like before. I've been there myself and after a while I realized that even if she was being terrible to me she didn't wanted to hurt me. And I also didn't want to hurt her. Sometimes that comes with age. And sometimes it never comes. One thing is for sure. Someone who dumps you shouldn't bother if you move on. And you shouldn't bother that they bother if they leave you. How are you holding up yourself now?
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