xboyfriend Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Hello. I've been on three dates with someone. On paper, she's a good match. We have a good deal in common... to a point. We went to the same high school, know mutual acquaintances, etc. Although there is a bit of a "culture/class" gap (both in upbringing and present occupation). We have similar interests. Anyhow, I don't have an active social life. It isn't non-existent, but I don't have friends locally who I hang out with, and I live with my parents. My point of saying this is that this girl talks a lot about stuff she does with friends, etc, and asks me what I do... and these lead to dead-ends in the conversation, and awkward silences. I was also turned off by her odor the other day... it was a combination of unscented body wash, and sunscreen. Really bad. And I'm not sure if there is physical chemistry. Thoughts? (btw... As I've learned, some women could care less about my social life (or lack thereof), while to some the lack of it was a deal-breaker)
halfcrazed_i Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Well... do you still like her despite all those? What happens usually when there are awkward silences? Does any one of you try to break them?
DArtagnan2 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Yeh, when someone doesn't have much to say in response to a question, it can leave an awkward pause in the conversation for sure. Some will even start to put some flags on the situation because you don't talk much about your day so there must be something you are hiding. While you may not have much going on, try to come up with something you did are going to do and share it. Then change topic so not to have that silence.
Author xboyfriend Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 Sometimes the silences can be broken. I'm sure they feel much worse than they actually are given the tension of early dates.
amaysngrace Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Yeah it's a bad sign. You two should be able to talk and talk but like you said, there's not much chemistry. They pretty much go together and you can't have one without the other.
Bruce Leigh Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 (btw... As I've learned, some women could care less about my social life (or lack thereof), while to some the lack of it was a deal-breaker) You summed it up right at the end. Some are cool with it, some are not. Add in your comment about the physical chemistry not really being there either and i think you would be better off letting this girl go.
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