Gaeta Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 After we talked and he told me this I closed skype on him and turned off my phone. Now that I turned it back on he is telling me that he was just kidding and that he didn't go on a date with her. He is now "mad" at me because I closed skype on him... He is turning the blame on you so the attention isn't on him anymore. He should be on his knees begging you for forgiveness. 1. If indeed this story was made up to kid you then he's a big jack@ss that doesn't deserve a girlfriend. 2. If his story is true than what kind of reaction did he expect from you?? that you'd give him a high-5? 3. Is it the very first time you have doubts about him? 1
soccerrprp Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Good grief! What goes through the minds of fools!? You know, some people say things to simply get a reaction. His telling you about it was either arrogance or some form of passive-aggressive attack on you. How is your relationship with him over-all? I don't buy that he was or is not aware how it would make you feel. He knew(knows) EXACTLY how it would make you feel. 1. Dancing with other girl. Not entirely innocent, but okay. He was having fun, a little inebriated, girl coaxed him, guys encouraged him....could have been fun. Bad scenario, he found her very attractive, touched her, bump and grind...well, other thoughts. 2. Gets (and keeps) phone number. This is where I believe he went over the line. There is intent, if not for a moment, there is intent to contact her again. It doesn't matter why. His intent was to contact her. 3. Meeting up with her. Well...enough said. You can always ask his buddies what exactly happened. No guarantee that they will tell you the truth, but it's an option. You can believe him and leave it, but I would be sore as to why he would even "make up" such a thing, if nothing happened.
preraph Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 I wouldn't blame him too much for how he handled it at the time, but this woman is seriously aggressive so if he sees her again, she'll be all over him, so he shouldn't see her and should respect your fears there. She's after him and if he doesn't get that, he's stupid, but I think he does.
Author zendi_1 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 Good grief! What goes through the minds of fools!? You know, some people say things to simply get a reaction. His telling you about it was either arrogance or some form of passive-aggressive attack on you. How is your relationship with him over-all? I don't buy that he was or is not aware how it would make you feel. He knew(knows) EXACTLY how it would make you feel. 1. Dancing with other girl. Not entirely innocent, but okay. He was having fun, a little inebriated, girl coaxed him, guys encouraged him....could have been fun. Bad scenario, he found her very attractive, touched her, bump and grind...well, other thoughts. 2. Gets (and keeps) phone number. This is where I believe he went over the line. There is intent, if not for a moment, there is intent to contact her again. It doesn't matter why. His intent was to contact her. 3. Meeting up with her. Well...enough said. You can always ask his buddies what exactly happened. No guarantee that they will tell you the truth, but it's an option. You can believe him and leave it, but I would be sore as to why he would even "make up" such a thing, if nothing happened. I would say our relationship is good overall. He always tells me what he does. He knows I don't like him drinking or smoking weed with his friends (TMI I know) , but when he does it he tells me even though he knows I will get mad at him for that. As for his friends, I cannot count on them to tell me the truth. I've seen how my boyfriend covers up for them. I'm sure if something went on that day, they would cover up for him as well.
Dallers Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 As a guy, he is full of s**t. We like to do this from time to time to make you feel a little insecure and chase after us a little more to make our ego bigger. Or at least I did in the playground at primary school. Guy is a jerk. Go out with the girls, should be easy enough to repay him the favour 1
LifeGoesOnMan Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 its nice he told you but yea something not right about all this. maybe he felt guilty and that's why he told you, or maybe he thinks it make it ok if he told you that's not good either. that kinda stuff would never fly with my girlfriend and she would never believe "we were just friends". shoulda never took the number.
soccerrprp Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 I would say our relationship is good overall. He always tells me what he does. He knows I don't like him drinking or smoking weed with his friends (TMI I know) , but when he does it he tells me even though he knows I will get mad at him for that. As for his friends, I cannot count on them to tell me the truth. I've seen how my boyfriend covers up for them. I'm sure if something went on that day, they would cover up for him as well. zendi_1, It is my opinion that this guy does not respect you or takes you seriously. He always tells you what he does. Big whoop! He tells you everything (as you like to believe, but have no evidence to prove this) that he does even the things you don't like for him to engage in. He tells you "some" things b/c he knows that there are no consequences other than you getting mad at him. In other words, if that's the worst thing that happens, he will continue. It's especially meaningless if he feels that there are not teeth to the consequences that are presented for his poor behavior. I wonder if he knows that your disapproval doesn't carry much weight. ...and your bf is prone to "cover up" for his so-called friends. Sounds like a man with integrity.
Treasa Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 As a guy, he is full of s**t. We like to do this from time to time to make you feel a little insecure and chase after us a little more to make our ego bigger. Or at least I did in the playground at primary school. Guy is a jerk. Go out with the girls, should be easy enough to repay him the favour This. Just this.
jbelle6 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 They parted ways. He had gone with his cousin and they were staying at a hotel in that city. So he says...
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