sunshinelove Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Our last exchange was via text. He sent two long texts one saying he had to take a rain check. Second was to say he would have let me know sooner but thought he could make it work. I was sorta annoyed so I replied with a one word "alright." Then I realized that looked bitchy so I followed it up with "I get back from vacation in a week, so maybe another day." This was sent yesterday afternoon and I have heard nothing since. Give it a week, if you still hear nothing then send him one last text if you still feel like it in a weeks time.
Frank2thepoint Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Hmm interesting. So the guy says do it and the girls say don't. Haha. If a guy sent me the message, I wouldn't care. It's really up to you if you really want to give it a second chance. There is nothing wrong with this, especially if he wasn't disrespectful to you. Our last exchange was via text. He sent two long texts one saying he had to take a rain check. Second was to say he would have let me know sooner but thought he could make it work. I was sorta annoyed so I replied with a one word "alright." Then I realized that looked bitchy so I followed it up with "I get back from vacation in a week, so maybe another day." This was sent yesterday afternoon and I have heard nothing since. Go on vacation, come back, and try again. If he doesn't respond, oh well, his loss.
todreaminblue Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 i will send a message like you put up on this thread if i thought the guy was a great guy.....great guys are hard to come by.......if i thought i had contributed in some way to miscommunication or awkwardness......i also say sorry when i offend soemoen if i have knowledge that i have......to me its courtesy not clinginess.....to me its respect not neediness.......to me its honest.....and not a game....if guy sends me a message that says sorry the date was so uneventful i would assume he thought i was bored and uninterested...i would ask why do you feel that way....because i would have already said i enjoyed the date thankyou ......out of courtesy..........i am hardly ever bored.....especially with people...and especially on first dates......awkward yes....but i use it... you said something interesting in this thread ....what date did he blow....the first date or the date that never happened...how did he blow a date that never eventuated....he hasnt had a chance to blow it yet...... so i am assuming somehow it is the first date he "blew" or that he blew his chance at a second date.....even though i feel there is miscommunication and awkwardness from both of you in getting to a second date..deb
irresolute Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Not into you. You're just an option. Move on and I'm really sorry. Better sooner than later. I'm one year and a half and still wondering. Send whatever text you want, the guy will just ignore you because he doesn't care. 2
jbelle6 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 I'm in the no message camp here. A guy WILL call if he's into it. You'd be setting the tone for the whole relationship. 1
Mrin Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 I'd message him with the abbreviated non clingy suggestions above but not for a day or two. Many a decent relationship had been avoided due to mixed messages and pride. Nothing to lose.
aussietigerwolf Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Message if you wish but don't expect a reply.
Author abby_tx Posted June 5, 2014 Author Posted June 5, 2014 I ended up sending him a message. It was short and sweet. Not too desperate. He didn't reply. Oh well. I guess I'm happy I sent it. I had nothing to lose. I just think it's lame guys disappear instead of acting like a reasonable human. I'm starting to question what's wrong with me. My lady friends tell me I'm beautiful and a catch, but I guess either no one sees that or it's not true.
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