Nova Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 My ex and I broke up. I keep thinking about him. I am glad this relationship ended because it was not going anywhere and the love just dwindled to nothing. Yet I keep thinking about him and can't get him off my mind. How do I stop myself from thinking about him all around the clock?
Sukotto Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 There isn't really an easy way to do this apart from keeping yourself occupied with other tasks. Offer to work more overtime if you have a job, if you dont get one! Volunteer at some local organisation. Go out with friends. Find some dates. I dont all 4 and it helped me get through the first 3 months, I still think about the ex dailing but its only for a few minutes at the time and its slowly getting better. Its been 4.5 months since the split.
Author Nova Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 I do have a lot of work that needs to be done but I cant do them properly because I keep thinking about him. I know I don't love him but I keep thinking about him.
emotionsmessmeup Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 why dont u become like me.. keep thinking about him and make urself miserable.. all ur friends will laugh at u you will called a weak person. is that what you want? the minute he comes to mind, think of something else.
axle_boy Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 Originally posted by Nova My ex and I broke up. I keep thinking about him. I am glad this relationship ended because it was not going anywhere and the love just dwindled to nothing. Yet I keep thinking about him and can't get him off my mind. How do I stop myself from thinking about him all around the clock? Did you break up with him or the other way around? There is no way you can NOT think about him. People telling you how not to will not work. However you can control your actions and NOT call him or speak to him under any circumstance.
Author Nova Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 He didnt have the courage to initiate it so I brought it up and he agreed. It got to the point where we were bored of each other. I would rather read alone and he would rather play his computer games. The romance we had was completely gone and he wasn't leading and no point in me leading if he doesnt want to follow. I feel better like I've made the right choice but he pops into my head daily.
CoolAunt Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 Originally posted by Nova My ex and I broke up. I keep thinking about him. I am glad this relationship ended because it was not going anywhere and the love just dwindled to nothing. Yet I keep thinking about him and can't get him off my mind. How do I stop myself from thinking about him all around the clock? Nova, I know exactly how you feel because I feel the same way. I broke up with my ex-bf three months ago today. It was the right decision but it still hurts and I still think about him quite a bit. The fact that we were friends for 20+ years before having a romantic relationship doesn't help me to NOT think about him. Be that as it may, I loved him as a friend and then as a SO and I had hopes that we'd be together for a long time. It's hard to lose those things: love and hopes, and we grieve the loss of them. Even if we could ignore the thoughts about the guys we've loved and lost, it wouldn't be good for us because we'd just carry that pain and loss into our next relationships. We don't want to do that and the guys we date next surely don't want us to do that either! The thoughts of them and the pain that comes with the thoughts will lessen over time. It's all part of the grieving process. Cool Aunt
Guest Posted February 11, 2005 Posted February 11, 2005 I think he still loves u, and if u are thinking of him all the time maybe deep inside u do too..... i think you should call him. The love is still there its just been hurt.
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