strach Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Wasnt sure if this should be in friendship or dating, guess both work. So there’s this girl I have liked for a while now, and back in November she actually said that she liked me. But she goes to university far away and was only home for a bit and I never got the chance to ask her out (mainly because I am way too shy). But we kept texting and I was waiting till she got back for summer. Unfortunately I moved so it was hard to hang out with her. Just a week ago I started to notice her almost ignoring me, she would respond to texts but something was off. So I confronted her about it and told her I still had feelings for her, and she told me she started dating someone else because she thought it was over because I wasn’t hanging out with her a lot. She told me she didn’t want this to ruin our friendship because we are actually pretty good friends. Im 20, I’ve never had a gf before and to be honest this is pretty much the only girl ive ever liked enough that I actually wanted a relationship with which is making this tougher. What should I do? Like I do consider her a good friend and we share the same close group of friends. But im concerned im going to be on the verge of tears every time that I see her. If this was some random girl there wouldn’t be a problem but its not, and ive never had to say I cant be friends with someone before. It doesn’t help that she plans most of the stuff our group does. This is not up my alley at all, I don’t want to cause drama. If anyone can relate and/or give me some advice that would be much appreciated.
Lp1 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Since distance is an issue& you are both young I think you should date other people while maintaining a friendship with her. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you& you should be out there having fun& Work on overcoming your shyness.It's very sweet that you both have connected on an emotional level but unfortunately maintaining a real relationship long distance will probably lead to frustration & issues that may destroy the friendship you have developed. The only way I would personally end the friendship is if it's troubling you emotionally& you feel as if you are getting mixed signals but under no circumstances would I withdraw from the social circle of friends that you share. Life has a funny way of working itself out& you just might end up together when the time is right OR someone else may very well capture your heart. Good luck!
Author strach Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 Thanks for answering. Its going to be a tough decision
d0nnivain Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 It's really painful to be just friends with somebody who you like. It's worse when they start a romance with somebody else & you have a front row seat. If you don't have a meaningful way to be together, keep some sort of connection but keep your options open. Date other people & see where this goes. It may be impractical for it to go anywhere
Author strach Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 It's really painful to be just friends with somebody who you like. It's worse when they start a romance with somebody else & you have a front row seat. If you don't have a meaningful way to be together, keep some sort of connection but keep your options open. Date other people & see where this goes. It may be impractical for it to go anywhere Ya its definitely not going to be easy to watch that
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