90'sbaby Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 So, I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and she is the love of my life, I can't picture my life without her. but recently she has been hanging around with my best friend alot, I recently found out that (after we had a huge argument) she went away for a week to his house (he lives in another town) and now that she's back he is staying at her house even when I leave...and when I am around neither of them really talk to me, they pay more attention and talk to each other, am I just being paranoid or does this seem wrong to anyone else?
David87 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 She's cheating on you with your best friend. It happened to me 2 years ago. Be prepared friend because dark times are coming. 8
Author 90'sbaby Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 She's cheating on you with your best friend. It happened to me 2 years ago. Be prepared friend because dark times are coming. Why do you think that??
David87 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Because she's avoiding you and she's spends too much time with your best friend.But who knows maybe I'm wrong but definitely have a talk with both of them. 3
Author 90'sbaby Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 Because she's avoiding you and she's spends too much time with your best friend.But who knows maybe I'm wrong but definitely have a talk with both of them. Just not sure what to say...:-(
David87 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Just not sure what to say...:-( Talk to him first because he supposed to be your best friend. Tell him you suspect something .........of course he will denie thats true, after that tell him he's affecting your relationship with your girl. As for your girlfriend......why does she need a best friend when she has you ? You vere supposed to be her best friend and lover and everything if she loves you but that's not the case. 1
soccerrprp Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 (edited) So' date=' I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and she is the love of my life, I can't picture my life without her. but recently she has been hanging around with my best friend alot, I recently found out that (after we had a huge argument) she went away for a week to his house (he lives in another town) and now that she's back he is staying at her house even when I leave...and when I am around neither of them really talk to me, they pay more attention and talk to each other, am I just being paranoid or does this seem wrong to anyone else?[/quote'] Where were you during the week she went away with your friend? She just disappeared? No communication? No contact? He is staying at her house? Did you tell her that that is unacceptable? Edited May 26, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
Dallers Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 No easy way about it really it happens a lot and you just need to find out fast before you allow it to go on any longer. Confront them both or whichever you think will be easier to get a straight answer out of. There is definitely something going on there and you are just too scared to find out and that is why you are acting blind as you trust her and do not want to think there isn't. Commonly it happens after a big argument too and then leads onto something from there. Get a back bone quickly and take control of the situation. Be ready at any moment to walk away head held high even if you are crying inside. He is not your best friend and she is not your girlfriend if this is going on behind your back. 2
Author 90'sbaby Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 (edited) Where were you during the week she went away with your friend? She just disappeared? No communication? No contact? He is staying at her house? Did you tell her that that is unacceptable? I was at home..I haven't said anything to her about it yet...what should I ask her? Edited May 26, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Dallers Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 The way they are acting around you and their body language reeks of Guilt. - They won't look you in the eye - They will keep touching their hair, neck or face - They cross their arms in a self conscious or defensive way - They refuse to engage you but respond back to questions that you ask in a polite and sympathetic way - They become tense when you are present and relax when you leave - They ignore and/or try to make as little contact as possible 1
Author 90'sbaby Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 The way they are acting around you and their body language reeks of Guilt. - They won't look you in the eye - They will keep touching their hair, neck or face - They cross their arms in a self conscious or defensive way - They refuse to engage you but respond back to questions that you ask in a polite and sympathetic way - They become tense when you are present and relax when you leave - They ignore and/or try to make as little contact as possible I talked to my other friend and he said to just tell them to **** off and just walk away...should I do that??
Lalasita Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 I talked to my other friend and he said to just tell them to **** off and just walk away...should I do that?? First talk to both of them and after that do what your friend suggested. 1
Dallers Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 The aim for you now once you have established what is going on is to preserve yourself and prevent as much damage as possible that will come following confirmation of if what you fear is true. You need to plan what you intend to do after confrontation. Go in expecting the worst and then losing it or breaking down will do you no favours. You wanna go in there, find out, say exactly what you need to say to make that person realise that not only are they f**king stupid that they just lost someone that was god damn awesome. Then you want to flip the table turn on your heel with a reverse middle finger and a door slam. Alpha male come Alpha male go. Then you can mourn in your own time. Trust me if you do not leave a mark you will regret it afterwards and wish you had not been so wet. These pussies deserve to know what they have done is wrong.
soccerrprp Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 I was at home..I haven't said anything to her about it yet...what should I ask her? At home???! After the argument, you had no contact with her? For a week, you didn't say a word to her? If she is the love of your life, how could this have happened? Does she feel the SAME way about you? I sure doesn't sound like it.
Author 90'sbaby Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 The way they are acting around you and their body language reeks of Guilt. - They won't look you in the eye - They will keep touching their hair, neck or face - They cross their arms in a self conscious or defensive way - They refuse to engage you but respond back to questions that you ask in a polite and sympathetic way - They become tense when you are present and relax when you leave - They ignore and/or try to make as little contact as possible I talked to my other friend and he said to just tell them to **** off and just walk away...should I do that??
Author 90'sbaby Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 The aim for you now once you have established what is going on is to preserve yourself and prevent as much damage as possible that will come following confirmation of if what you fear is true. You need to plan what you intend to do after confrontation. Go in expecting the worst and then losing it or breaking down will do you no favours. You wanna go in there, find out, say exactly what you need to say to make that person realise that not only are they f**king stupid that they just lost someone that was god damn awesome. Then you want to flip the table turn on your heel with a reverse middle finger and a door slam. Alpha male come Alpha male go. Then you can mourn in your own time. Trust me if you do not leave a mark you will regret it afterwards and wish you had not been so wet. These pussies deserve to know what they have done is wrong. Yes this does make alot of sense...thanks"-)
caliborn82 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 So' date=' I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and she is the love of my life, I can't picture my life without her. but recently she has been hanging around with my best friend alot, I recently found out that (after we had a huge argument) she went away for a week to his house (he lives in another town) and now that she's back he is staying at her house even when I leave...and when I am around neither of them really talk to me, they pay more attention and talk to each other, am I just being paranoid or does this seem wrong to anyone else?[/quote'] No you are NOT being paranoid because that is FUUUCKED UP!!! She spent a week at this guys house? Seriously?? If you haven't already dumped her for doing that then do it ASAP!!! How long has this been going on? There is no reason for her to go spend a week at his house (let alone without you being there) and now that she's back in town he stays over her house whenever he comes to visit (HOPEFULLY it's to visit the both of y'all)...ummmm if he is supposed to be your official best friend then why doesn't he stay at YOUR house instead? Honestly you need to sit her down and talk to her because this doesn't sound good at all. But if you want an honest opinion it looks to me like they're dating and are too cowardly to tell you...sorry man:-( But I seriously HOPE I'm wrong though. 1
soccerrprp Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Well, it sounds like you are letting or you let this girl stomp all over you. I seriously doubt she hasn't slept with this guy. Anyway, you need to leave her. You should NEVER tolerate cheating and the disrespect she has shown to you. 1
bubbaganoosh Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 I talked to my other friend and he said to just tell them to **** off and just walk away...should I do that?? Well, think about it for a minuet. That's pretty much what their both telling you in so many words. If it's me, My thought is there isn't any good reason for her to be at my best friends house for a week and then when you see them, neither on will give you the time of day so all isn't well and he isn't a really your best friend and she isn't your girlfriend any more. When you see them, tell them both to go to hell and walk away head held high and be the bigger person. Sooner or later they both will realize what they did. 1
caliborn82 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Well, think about it for a minuet. That's pretty much what their both telling you in so many words. If it's me, My thought is there isn't any good reason for her to be at my best friends house for a week and then when you see them, neither on will give you the time of day so all isn't well and he isn't a really your best friend and she isn't your girlfriend any more. When you see them, tell them both to go to hell and walk away head held high and be the bigger person. Sooner or later they both will realize what they did. Next time ALL three of you are together just say this.. "Look I clearly know what's going on" "Your actions are speaking louder than words." "Spending nights over each others houses without me being there." "Ignoring me when we're all together." "Only paying attention to each other." "This is NOT normal behavior from either of you, and I'm not putting up with such disrespect anymore." "I hope you two enjoy each other and live well" Then just walk away and don't look back. And IF either of them have ANY kind of a conscience one or both MIGHT stop you and confess and apologize, or explain the situation to you, Good luck.
mtber75 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 She's cheating on you with your best friend. It happened to me 2 years ago. Be prepared friend because dark times are coming. Sorry dude, its pretty obvious that she's screwing your best friend! Not really a best friend if he let a woman come between you guys...Just saying always bros before ****! 2
David87 Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 Sorry dude, its pretty obvious that she's screwing your best friend! Not really a best friend if he let a woman come between you guys...Just saying always bros before ****! Women come and go, but best friends were supposed to last forever......or so I thought 2 years ago.... TRUST NO ONE:mad: 2
Author 90'sbaby Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 Women come and go, but best friends were supposed to last forever......or so I thought 2 years ago.... TRUST NO ONE:mad: Do you think I should show her this thread or not??
jbelle6 Posted May 31, 2014 Posted May 31, 2014 Do you think I should show her this thread or not?? No, don't give her the satisfaction of thinking you cared enough to start a thread, dump them both. 2
David87 Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 Do you think I should show her this thread or not?? Absolutely not, this thread is for you to open your eyes. 1
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