youngcouture123 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 I met my ex boyfriend on fb he message first and we started talking online then texting.After texting for like a week we started dating.mind you I've never met this guy and he never met me and never talked on the phone because we where both shy and not allowed to date.btw i was 14 at the time and im 15 now.and he was my first real boyfriend.and while we were dating he would always ask for naked pic and sex,i am a virgin,hes not. and i didnt really like that.we would argue alot and sometimes i felt like he was cheating on me or i wasnt enough and he could find better which made me feel soo insecure.but one we finally met.....he is so freaking cute.but when we met it was in a public place, so he didnt speak to me.but he smiled.two days later he broke up with me.idk why probally cause i was boring because not to sound concited but i think im a very pretty girl.so months go back im heart broken and he reach out to me on fb saying how he was really sick.(he has really bad asthma ) and how theres a chance he could die and how he wanted me back but i had a bf at the time and i was happy and i didnt want him,but if he had ask me that before id say yeaa.long story short we stop taking after that( that was in the summer time)i broke up with my recent bf . now hes all i can think of i had 7 dreams of him. i really think im going crazy i dont believe in falling in love this young, i trie so hard to move on but i cant.i lie to myself saying i dont want him when i really do. someone please give me some advice so for the long paragraph i had to let it out.
d0nnivain Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 You aren't too young to be "in love" but you are a bit niave & this boy took advantage of that. You also weren't so much in love as infatuated. The feelings are equally powerful but love is more mature -- patient, kind, understanding etc. First, realize the internet is a dangerous place. People lie & scam all the time so you have to be cautious. If what you are doing is a good thing, you should have no problems sharing it with your parents. Since you hid this boy from them you knew this had problems. Respect your parents. If they don't want you to date because you are too young, understand they are making these rules because they love you. At some point -- 16 maybe -- they should recognize that you are growing up. Second, the minute a boy asks for naughty pictures, he's not the best guy. If you say no & he keeps pushing the issue, he's a jerk, not worthy of your time. Third, until you are dating & spending time together IRL, the relationship isn't real. The connections you make on the internet don't always translate to reality. Enjoy the people you encounter but don't put a lot of faith in them until you meet them IRL. The fact that this boy wasn't nice to you in public & dropped you soon after tells me he only wanted you for what you could give him sexually & he was using you. As you get older hopefully you will be better at spotting guys like him earlier to avoid getting hurt.
jbelle6 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 (edited) Never send naked pics. Just never. In fact at your age it's considered child pornography and people your age are being charged for taking naked selfies and giving them to classmates believe it or not. Not smart to send pics like that to strangers at any age. You'll date lots of guys, I wouldn't get hung up on a creep, but I remember high school and the feeling like your going to die if the guy you like doesn't like you back. Trust, you'll find someone better and won't remember this guys name. Also, death from asthma sounded a tad dramatic to me so I googled, this is from getasthmahelp.org: Do people really die from asthma? A: It is true that people can die from asthma. You may have heard or read about this in the news recently, but it is rare. Asthma is a very serious disease, but there is absolutely no reason for anyone to die from it. He's full of crap. Edited May 26, 2014 by jbelle6 2
Author youngcouture123 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 thanks and i would never send a naked pic im not that type of girl. 1
Author youngcouture123 Posted May 27, 2014 Author Posted May 27, 2014 But even after that he sent me a message saying he was sorry and how much he wants to be with me(that was the time when he said he was "sick")and how beautiful i am
d0nnivain Posted May 27, 2014 Posted May 27, 2014 He's a player (or at least a player in training depending on how old he is) He's saying those things because he knows you want to hear them. He's lying to you & only wants sex. Learn to identify guys like this early or you will repeatedly fall for them. They tend to be suave. Let him flirt with you but do not believe a word he says.
Author youngcouture123 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 (edited) ok thank you and were the same age Edited May 28, 2014 by youngcouture123
Author youngcouture123 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 And ever since highschool. I take the bus and one in a while he would get on the same bus as me, and try to sit near me, and he is always staring.. hes such a weirdo.
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