Is it weird for a 14 year old guy to date a 21 year old girl?

[thelastunicorn]

To me personally it's weird. I will say the same thing I would if the guy was 21 and the girl was 14... I would be very cautious about the motives and intentions of the older person. You just started high school and she's old enough to have graduated from college already. How is it the only guy she can see herself with happens to be 14? No offense but I would likely question her maturity and mental health.

 

Not sure where you live but where I live even if you were 15 and she was 18, she could easily face charges just for touching you in a sexual way. Age is much more than a number when a minor is involved.

[thefooloftheyear]

So basically there's this girl I've known for a few weeks and we've gotten really close. I met her at her job and we've been talking since then and we both really like each other. We've thought of going out but the problem is that she's 7 years older than me and we think people might think it's bizarre.

 

I talked to my parents about this and they're completely fine with it. She's shorter than me and I'm a lot taller than her, and she doesn't really look that old. So there doesn't seem to be a big problem.

 

Do you think there would be a problem with us going out?

 

 

Are you serious?? So you are taller...great...perfect match..

 

TFY

[littleplanet]

OP -

 

Why do I get the feeling that there is something more to the story than what was originally stated?

 

I could walk out my door and find a thousand young women in a row, all of them 21, every single one of them who would respond thus:

 

Interested in THAT way in a kid? Are you nuts?

(sorry dude - at your age, that is what you are.)

 

I'm not surprised that the legal eagles have suddenly taken off in here.

Sign of the times.

(though sure - if the genders were reversed, the crapstorm that would follow would know no bounds)

 

But seriously.

What gives?

 

Your parents are cool with it?

I'm gobsmacked.

 

(my spidey sense just gave me a bit of a troll feeling, in fact)

 

Regardless,

 

If she's shorter than you and 'looks' younger (young enough)

that's only messing around with the image, you know?

She's still a young adult, and you're not

(no matter how 'mature' you happen to be for your age.)

 

That this is even in the loop - leaves a trace of skunk.

And don't even get me started on HER parents.............................

 

There doesn't 'seem' to be a big problem.

But I'm gonna lay large money (if I was a betting man) that there sure as hell WILL be one!

 

Forget the legal side.

Consider the moral one.

 

over and out.

been a slice.

[Lp1]

I'm a parent& I would have her arrested if she were trying to date my 14 year old son.

[MissBee]

Um...

 

Yea something is wrong with this picture.

 

I cannot fathom what a college aged woman would have in common with a middle schooler Even if say mentally she is less mature, for lots of other reasons this match may make no sense, as the differences in life stages of a 14 yr old boy and a 21 year old woman are often way too vast. It is indeed true that after a certain point it begins to even out more, but someone just going through puberty and one person in young adulthood....totally different.

 

Not to mention I'm sure it's statutory rape.

[rns4lyfe]

Incredibly disgusting imo. Can't do anything with a 14 year old kid! No way José, parents that approve of such a relationship are questionable.

[Eivuwan]

Don't do it. She has problems if as a 21 year old adult, she wants to date a 14 year old boy. Be careful, I think she's either dumb or preying on you.

[Trimmer]

Perhaps for the same reason a 20 year old girl would be interested in a 30 year old guy.

 

20 is arguably in the range of "adulthood". 14 is still unquestionably an adolescent, with a lot of developmental work to do before becoming an adult.

[MissBee]

I have no issue with age difference relationships but this is just sick.

 

Yea...age differences between adults is one thing. Even though some are pretty bizarre, like an 18 yr old dating a 45 year old is more often than not a mismatch and something wrong on the older person's part especially as what can they really have in common with someone under twice their age...

 

But if one is an adult...go for it

 

However when the age difference is adult and child....NO! There really shouldn't be much room for discussion. It's even one thing if say it was a 17 yr old and a 21 year old, I could get it a bit more, but 14...no way.

[William]

As this appears to be a one-post wonder and has received some thoughtful and varied responses, and thank you for that, I'll close this up.