johnson_j Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 I agree with you. I just don't know how to word it. Last night she drove me home and we talked. She asked why things need to be all or nothing between us. I don't think she realizes how much it hurts to hang out while still not over her. And I've told her this. Sometimes I wish I could just disappear into the wind... If you are her kryptonite, then act like it and make yourself scarce. She doesn't need to be "all in" with you, because she can have your company without doing anything for it, and still have her dinner, dates, and romance with other men.
Author H245 Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 Is it not worth going to meetup with her tonight to talk about all this like we planned?
johnson_j Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 Ask yourself this: "Does she like me enough to have sex with me tonight?" If the answer is "No", you have your answer. (Hint: the answer is "No")
Author H245 Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 We met up and talked. The end result was that she tried to sort out her feelings and loves me but not in a romantic way. That she feels numb to everyone in the sense. I proceeded to tell her that I can't be there for her emotionally while she gets everything else from someone else. We spent the rest of the night just sitting there having a few drinks and small talk. I walked her to her car, she cried, I cried. She left. She texted me when she got home and said that she'd always love me but not in the way I love her and that she'd always be there for me not matter what. I told her that I know and appreciate it. I said that I don't know if I'll ever be able to get rid of these romantic feelings for her. Until the day comes that those feelings are no longer there, I do not exist to her. She never responded. So there it is. Back at square one and I now feel I should avoid all friends and locations that have to do with her. Clean break from everything and everyone. The last two years of my life have been completely miserable with this on and off again relationship or whatever this was. All I wanna do is lay in bed all day and forget everything...
Author H245 Posted October 1, 2014 Author Posted October 1, 2014 So she made things official with her guy shortly after our talk last Friday. I don't know why she talked and flirted with me all last week. This is now bf number 2 for her in less than 5 months post BU. This really sucks and I feel really hurt. I was a fool to talk to her...
newenglandkid Posted October 2, 2014 Posted October 2, 2014 Hey man just wanted to chime in, you def made the right choice telling your ex you can't be strung along. I am/went through the same thing with my ex...she broke up with me I tried keeping LC, we met up/talked and this got my hopes set high..well turns out she was also talking to another guy..so I told her we can't talk/see each other as long as she's seeing this new guy. Ya it sucked the first few days, but that was about a month ago and I can't tell you how much better it gets. I'd strongly recommend if you haven't done so already to block her on all social media, not having to see her FB or Twitter posts made it very easy to move on. So in closing, I know it sucks right now but just keep pushing, come on here (I sure as hell did), and just keep yourself busy. I've sort of accepted that if things were meant to be, then they will. So with that I just say enjoy life! And if you need it we'll be here to help us through the rough times! Cheers!!
Author H245 Posted October 2, 2014 Author Posted October 2, 2014 Thanks, I've read your posts before and sympathize with ya. I know the decision was the right one. It really sucks because I felt normal again during the time we were hanging out last week. I blocked on her on FB, but then decided to deactivate completely for now. I blocked her on Instagram and removed her from every other social media platform. I also told her to delete my number. I plan to avoid every place and just go to the gym and come home and find new hobbies. Part of me feels that she was just testing the waters with me to see if something was still there on her end before making things official with bf number 2. Sad part is I feel things are far from over based on our history. And I know I'll run into her since we run in the same social circles. Bah!
Author H245 Posted October 4, 2014 Author Posted October 4, 2014 I could use some support today. I'm having a hard time coping after cutting ties with my ex again after she made things official with her new bf. I know we weren't together during the week we talked and flirted, but I feel so heart broken all over again. I've been to the gym almost every day (and sadly the bar too). I just don't know why I can't handle this. I guess it's probably because she was so quick to throw me away again now that she is official with her new bf. Anyways, I needed to vent
Author H245 Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 Update on my situation. I was out Friday night with some friends at our usual spot. Nothing crazy, had a few drinks and hung out and went home. The next night I went again for a friend's birthday. The bartender tells me that my ex showed up after I left Friday night with her ex-bf that she rebounded with after me. They apparently were out until 4am at the bar he told me. I guess my question is what exactly is this woman doing? She just made things official with a new guy this past week. The week prior she was hanging out with me and texting all the time being flirty only to tell me she has no romantic feelings for me or anyone for that matter. And now she is hanging out with her most recent ex after they only dated for a few weeks. For me, I already told her to delete my number as it was too painful to remain LC with her. She was sending me songs that played on Pandora that reminded her of us (Example: John Legend - All of Me). I blocked her on all social media for my own sake. I'm just left wondering what is she doing and if I need to keep myself on guard if she tries to do the same thing to me again.
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