Sudden cut of communication. WHY?

[Augman]

Hello all, I'd like to start off saying I met this girl only a couple months ago, but about 2 weeks ago is when I asked her out.

 

Before I asked her out she was very slow to respond to texts, and when she did it was very brief.

 

Upon asking her out she started texting pretty much non stop, for a whole week she tested all day and would call me multiple times per day. We went on a couple dates and even had a very nice night at prom (I'm 18, she's 17) the night of prom we hit it off great. She was initiating kisses and everything.

 

I'm a guy looking for a serious relationship, not a fling. So I got a little attached to the thought of her, and I was responding to all her non stop texting and calling. 3 nights in a row we talked until she fell asleep.

 

One night we video chatted via Skype, all went well... Normally she sends me a good morning text along with a bunch of cutesy texts like how much she misses me or wishes I was cuddling her blah blah blah... The morning after our late night video chat she didn't text me, I know this is a no-no but since I was so attached to her clingyness I texted her a lot that day, waiting hours for replies and only getting one word replies.

 

That night (which was last night) I call her and she is with a friend, no big deal, but it was a distraction. We then video chatted again. After our call last night, she was quite tired and I wasn't in a best mood, so she asked if I would text her until she went to sleep, I pretty much just said no I was going to talk to my friend on Skype... She was a little angry but said goodbye and went to sleep. The duration of us video chatting she was constantly texting and I was a little angry at that anyways. So instead of letting things pass, I texted her saying I'd text her if she would stay awake with me.. no reply, so I said I'd talk to her today and that I was sorry for being in such a bad mood... Probably another no-no... I text her good morning, that I miss her and that I wanted her to text me today. As I expected, I got no responce.

 

Now getting no responce after kind of blowing her off then acting beta and appologizing isn't a huge suprise at all. But why she cut me off the day before is what I was suprised by.

 

She got me very attached to her with her clingyness, she has very very little dating experiance and was attached to me herself. And every date we had ended with crazy strong emotions, cuddleing, and plenty of kisses. So what's with the cut off???

[preraph]

You guys need to take it down a notch. You started off texting too much and just oversaturating each other. I don't know why she then stops, but if it were me, I'd need a break. Of course, if she's texting during Skype, she's got to room to talk. I say you set some ground rules, and those rules include not staying on communication all day. How boring for when you finally get together face to face! Nothing left to talk about. How about no communication 24 hours before a date? Both of you can call time out when you need space. More time together, less time texting/skyping.

[Assasda]

Hello all, I'd like to start off saying I met this girl only a couple months ago, but about 2 weeks ago is when I asked her out.

 

Before I asked her out she was very slow to respond to texts, and when she did it was very brief.

 

Upon asking her out she started texting pretty much non stop, for a whole week she tested all day and would call me multiple times per day. We went on a couple dates and even had a very nice night at prom (I'm 18, she's 17) the night of prom we hit it off great. She was initiating kisses and everything.

 

I'm a guy looking for a serious relationship, not a fling. So I got a little attached to the thought of her, and I was responding to all her non stop texting and calling. 3 nights in a row we talked until she fell asleep.

 

One night we video chatted via Skype, all went well... Normally she sends me a good morning text along with a bunch of cutesy texts like how much she misses me or wishes I was cuddling her blah blah blah... The morning after our late night video chat she didn't text me, I know this is a no-no but since I was so attached to her clingyness I texted her a lot that day, waiting hours for replies and only getting one word replies.

 

That night (which was last night) I call her and she is with a friend, no big deal, but it was a distraction. We then video chatted again. After our call last night, she was quite tired and I wasn't in a best mood, so she asked if I would text her until she went to sleep, I pretty much just said no I was going to talk to my friend on Skype... She was a little angry but said goodbye and went to sleep. The duration of us video chatting she was constantly texting and I was a little angry at that anyways. So instead of letting things pass, I texted her saying I'd text her if she would stay awake with me.. no reply, so I said I'd talk to her today and that I was sorry for being in such a bad mood... Probably another no-no... I text her good morning, that I miss her and that I wanted her to text me today. As I expected, I got no responce.

 

Now getting no responce after kind of blowing her off then acting beta and appologizing isn't a huge suprise at all. But why she cut me off the day before is what I was suprised by.

 

She got me very attached to her with her clingyness, she has very very little dating experiance and was attached to me herself. And every date we had ended with crazy strong emotions, cuddleing, and plenty of kisses. So what's with the cut off???

 

It seeems you know exactly what youre doing wrong.

So why do it??

You exoplained everything, and said where you went wrong.

As far as I see, you need no advice. Just self-control

[Augman]

Hi, thanks for the reply, you are completely right. I did end up figuring things out. it turns out she has VERY major commitment issues and the non-stop talking turning into being super distant the next day is a direct result of her past and her commitment issues. I told her I wanted to go no-contact for a few days to think things out after she said she wanted to be just friends because she knows I want a girlfriend and she simply cannot make the commitment. She said she didn't want to lead me on or end up hurting me more. I'm trying to figure out things right now...