sunny_eyes Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone. I dated a guy for a month when I was 17. Probably not even a month, less than 3 weeks but we saw each other everyday. I was going to get an arranged marriage because i was going to college and I was still a virgin. It's apart of our culture in iran (my dad is iranian, my mom is not, so he dominates our family lol). So this guy just came from Iran, he didn't speak any English at all. It was very hard to communicate on dates. That didn't mean he was dumb. He was very much a gentleman even at 17. I obviously did not know what a true gentleman was back then. Now that I have matured very much, I look back and think. I remember, he was a True Gentleman. He paid, held doors, waited when i had to tie my shoes. We didn't kiss or touch at all. I was just getting to know him. My first kiss was at 19 anyway and well...i wish it was with the guy I dated when I was 17. Now at that time, I had to let him go as I decided I was too young for marriage and he didn't speak English. So how could I have communicated clearly with him? My farsi was bad. Plus I knew i was going to move away for University. We didn't see each other after that. I knew he really liked me and i could tell by the look in his eyes that he was crushed when I let him go. He knew it was for logical reasons. Now today, I saw him drop by at my work. I work at a grocery store part time. I was very shocked to see him as it's been years. I didn't hear from him so i kept thinking he probably went back to Iran to get married. But he told me he would never as the quality of life here is better. He never got married either and is still single. My heart fluttered with hope when he said he was still single. When I saw him, a wave of nervousness passed over my spirit. He is absolutely gorgeous now with hazel eyes and the same light complexion as me, with dark glowing hair. I didn't think he'd find me here but he asked me, "when is your break? lets talk" I questioned, "alright...it's going to be in an hour though." He told me he'd wait. And so he did. I can't believe he waited for me. It was 15 minutes of bliss. He told me he felt bad for taking away my rest and then he bought me a tea as I have a cold today. I refused to let him buy me a tea, as it's only a $1. But he insisted. We talked a lot; basically caught up and he mentioned how i grew up to be a beautiful woman, almost 4 times. I was too shy to say it back to him but he was gorgeous. He was wearing neat jeans, nice brushed over hair and white nike hoodie. I couldn't stop blushing. Then i had to go and he held me. He kissed my forehead and then my lips. I questioned, "why? i'm sick.." He replied with, "doesn't matter to me, you're not a disease...I'll see you again" I don't know what to say. Now I'm confused. I don't know if i i'd stay with my BF. I like two guys now. One would be devastated if i left him. But we have only been out 10 times. Plus this guy is much better. He doesn't smoke or drink. Obviously if a better guy came along in terms of health aspects, i would take him. My BF smokes pot and drinks beer. They are both muslim but this one, my dad already knows. Do i dump my BF? This guy is done school btw. He was telling me he finished his accounting degree. My BF is going to finish next December, 2015. I finish this December, 2014. They are both: -romantic -gentlemen -sweet -affectionate -caring just one drinks and smokes weed, the other doesn't do anything of the sort. What do i do guys? Do i dump my bf? Please help Edited May 25, 2014 by sunny_eyes
Baller25 Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 He was wearing neat jeans, nice brushed over hair and white nike hoodie. I couldn't stop blushing. This was the only bit that I found odd in your post. Do you live in Glendale, CA around lots of persians by any chance? You should dump your bf the pot head. Actually I don't know why I said that because I'm a pothead Anyway, the way your writing about this old/new guy sounds like you already know what you want to do.
HappyLove Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 Well, I guess this is a nice problem to have. You say this guy is such a gentleman but he kissed you on the lips knowing you have a man. Idk, some people would consider that cheating. What exactly are you dumping your bf for anyway? Who knows if this other guy isn't going to disappear for another four years? How did he know where you work? Sucks to be your bf. Some guy from 4 years ago drops in for 15 minutes and you're kissing him on the lips and planning on dumping the bf. Seems pretty shady on your part.
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