LoveFloats Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 I've never really been great in the dating world, ie rules, texting, who should text etc. What do guys actually really like? I'm interested in someone, but some people tell me never to text him first, wait for him to contact me and wait for him to ask me to hang out. I know not to be needy/clingy, but do guys really like the chase??
Dallers Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 I've never really been great in the dating world, ie rules, texting, who should text etc. What do guys actually really like? I'm interested in someone, but some people tell me never to text him first, wait for him to contact me and wait for him to ask me to hang out. I know not to be needy/clingy, but do guys really like the chase?? I like someone who is genuine, acts like a normal human being, does not play games and can just be themselves. Spontaneous is always nice. These people are very rare If you can be the above you will also find the same in a man eventually, as long as you leave all the men behind that do the exact opposite. Which is the majority. 1
Potz4prez Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Pretty much that ^ Test the waters and see what he likes. If he's busy, he may not like to text as much, and may want to keep it down to setting up dates. BUT, if you had some spontaneous thought, or saw something, whatever, that made you think of what you guys had talked about previously, and sent a text, it could never be a bad thing. Just don't over-do it. If a girl actually had the balls to ask ME out on a date, it would definitely make her stand out. I'm actually due to ask one girl out again right around now, but I'm busy and tired at the moment and I can't seem to care. However, if she called me right now, I'd be excited to set up a date. 2
Dallers Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Yes the asking ME out thing is a cert. I do not ask girls out. I just do not see the point why I should waste my time. I roll up, fire off convo and look for the signs and then allow her to pull the trigger It is the same Online although I am happy with just contact first then I ask out. I can guarantee that 99% of the girls I ask out lead to nothing. The few that have asked me out or approached me have led to something. If you want to get control of your man ask him out first!
Author LoveFloats Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 Thanks guys! Good to know!! I just dont want to come across as desperate..but I will just try to be myself
Dallers Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 You won't as long as you have Tact. Make sure that you like him and can tell he is into you first. We give away signs far more easily than girls do, good and bad signs. Look for them. Good luck.
Assasda Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Thanks guys! Good to know!! I just dont want to come across as desperate..but I will just try to be myself How will you seem desperate?
Author LoveFloats Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 I just mean if i text too much, or show too much interest....but probably over-thinking it now =S
Dallers Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 I just mean if i text too much, or show too much interest....but probably over-thinking it now =S There is no right or wrong answer but there is doing something out of context with the situation. My current girl we text none stop, even though there is not that much of a connection to the amount of texting going on we are just comfortable chatting a lot. It is all about the situation, play it cool but don't play games. Go with the flow and just test the waters. By over-thinking commonly people then make the mistakes they fear, it can actually be the cause half the time. Just have fun and enjoy yourself.
shet Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 I appreciate honesty, kindness and reliability. Don't lie or withhold, don't be cruel, don't let the guy down. Have the insight and humility to see what might be one of these things. They're incredibly rare qualities to have.
turt Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 Go ahead and text first, don't listen to what others say. I find it annoying when I have to start every conversation and it make it look like the other person isn't interested.
Strength in Healing Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 I've never really been great in the dating world, ie rules, texting, who should text etc. What do guys actually really like? I'm interested in someone, but some people tell me never to text him first, wait for him to contact me and wait for him to ask me to hang out. I know not to be needy/clingy, but do guys really like the chase?? I don't care for the chase. I ain't a damn cheetah. Text me, dang.
user165464 Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 What do guys actually really like? DON'T be silent, DON'T do the fade, DON'T send smiley faces! If you don't like us after a meet, send a rejection the next night and it's much easier for us to take. If you do like us, send a quick text that same night thanking us for the date and leave it at that, the ball is back in our court to make a move. It's incredibly painful to go through a fade because you constantly ask yourself what went wrong.
Potz4prez Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 DON'T be silent, DON'T do the fade, DON'T send smiley faces! YOU TAKE THAT BACK I like the smiley faces When a girl doesn't use them... I feel weird when I do
user165464 Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 Depends on your age I guess. I also meant just a single smiley face by itself. That is so lame I think.
scooby-philly Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 I agree with a couple of the posters. The serious relationships I've had began when the woman started/initiated something in the beginning - whether it was giving me her number after we started talking on and OLD before I asked for it, or trying to start chatting with me online if we met in person. I think women tend to have better initial sense of what they find attractive. I love good conversation and I can be way into a conversation, 30 minutes or more, at a singles event before I realize that while the conversation is okay - I'm not really digging the woman I'm talking to. We don't always do subtlety that well so taking some sort of initiative (once he picks up on it you can ease off a little) helps start the process. You won't seem needy to a good guy - and being spontaneous is great too - (unless it's all the time and you seem flaky) - and to the guys you do seem too needy for right off the bat - stop and do not pass go.
carhill Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 I'm interested in someone, but some people tell me never to text him first, wait for him to contact me and wait for him to ask me to hang out. I know not to be needy/clingy, but do guys really like the chase?? If you met and have primarily interacted casually via electronic means, no harm in a 'hey, let's meet up' text. Eventually, at some point, people need to meet and press some flesh. If you met IRL and have interacted primarily that way, broach a more personal meetup in that realm. If you initiate in this way and the man likes you, such initiation should rarely dissuade him from liking you. If he does like you and wants to grow that, most every man knows how to do that, in general. He'll know how to initiate contact. As far as the 'chase' part goes, IMO a clearer question to ask yourself is whether you like a man who chases you and find that quality attractive in a man. Then, look at your relationships where such has occurred and evaluate them. If it works for you it works for you. If not, try something else. Good luck!
Potz4prez Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 If some girl asked me out in a text I wouldn't even respond. It's a horrible and impersonal way of communicating, it's the equivalent of wearing pajamas in public. It says I am lazy and don't even want to try. Not a fan of text messaging and it wouldn't lead me to believe the person on the other end was worth a response. I don't even like text messaging while in a relationship but I am definitely not going to start one that way. A telegram means she really cares -.- 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 I've never really been great in the dating world, ie rules, texting, who should text etc. What do guys actually really like? I'm interested in someone, but some people tell me never to text him first, wait for him to contact me and wait for him to ask me to hang out. I know not to be needy/clingy, but do guys really like the chase?? I don't. But most guys probably do...
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