Weallwalkthelongroad Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 We went our separate ways back February. Since then I've dated a few girls and while the dates were fun, I just wasn't in it completely so things fizzled out. I still had feelings for the ex bouncing around. So for the majority of the time, I was NC and then out of the blue I got an apology text from the ex. I couldn't believe it. Anyways, we've been chatting through texts and phone calls for the past few weeks and the conversations have been fun. I really do miss her and want her in my life. The reasons we went our separate ways was because she took a lot of stuff out on me for no reason. She is currently bed ridden due to a major surgery on her ankle. So I don't know for sure if she is just talking to me because she is bored or if she is genuinely interested in me again. How do I bring up the topic of possibly giving it another shot without sounding needy? If she rejects me again, I'll be fine. I don't NEED her, I really just want her as a part of my life.
Author Weallwalkthelongroad Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 Ugh, I knew you were going to say that. Haha!
firmness Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 I hate to say this, but it has been my experience that women want you when they need you for something. Once that need goes away, they tend to move on. I learned that there is a word for that "hypergamy" - the tendency for women to upgrade. Guys who are FWB do not visit their women in the hospital. Nor do players, and men with looks money or power. The good guys do this. And once you are labelled a good guy, it is all over. Be careful here. I would stay away. She is lonely and may need you now, but once she is better she will likely go back to who she was. People change, but that is the exception, not the rule. 2
Marco Valerio Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 I hate to say this, but it has been my experience that women want you when they need you for something. Once that need goes away, they tend to move on. I learned that there is a word for that "hypergamy" - the tendency for women to upgrade. Guys who are FWB do not visit their women in the hospital. Nor do players, and men with looks money or power. The good guys do this. And once you are labelled a good guy, it is all over. Be careful here. I would stay away. She is lonely and may need you now, but once she is better she will likely go back to who she was. People change, but that is the exception, not the rule. Totally agree. Once her needs are met she wil dump you again!!! Selfish people only take care for their needs and what's best for them, not your needs or what's best for you !!! 3
Author Weallwalkthelongroad Posted May 25, 2014 Author Posted May 25, 2014 Well, you were right. Back on the NC train once again.
firmness Posted May 26, 2014 Posted May 26, 2014 Well, you were right. Back on the NC train once again. Dude! Did she act as predicted? If so, sorry to hear that. Yes, NC is the way to go. Find someone else and move on. Just watch for signs of selfishness going forward. They are easy to spot if you can get ahold of your emotions.
Author Weallwalkthelongroad Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 Meh, I wasn't all that surprised. She's not the same person I knew a few months ago. I responded to the breadcrumb anyways. It's time to move on and forget about this one. Viva la NC! 1
bulldogz Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Guys who are FWB do not visit their women in the hospital. Nor do players, and men with looks money or power. The good guys do this. And once you are labelled a good guy, it is all over. . Are you suggesting that women want their husbands to NOT visit them in the hospital? Are you suggesting if a boyfriend/husband visits thier gf/wife in the hospital, she will dump them? (I know that's not quite what you said, but you did make the statement)??? 1
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