Unsure about finding pics of boyfriends ex...

[Svrox]

I just want to start off saying that I've never really looked for information/help with relationship on a forum/blog/site before.

 

Here's my story though:

My boyfriend and I haven't dated very long. Nine months, which may seem long but isn't to me. Known each other for just over a year and a half now. I care a lot about him and we click on multiple levels. In any case, I was browsing through emails on my phone the other day and found a bunch with pictures that were sent. I opened a few and saw that they were of his ex. No big deal to me. I feel everyone has a past and hey, if they happen to be in a picture you look pretty good in, so what? Personally, I don't save the photos where I feel my exes and I were super cuddly/romantic. I feel that with an end to the deep connection that I share with that person, goes those connected memorabilia. I still care for them and wish well upon them but that inner bond has been severed, I feel. Pictures together is whatever as long as they aren't crossing the line on cuddly/romance. Personal thoughts though.

 

Anyways, so there are these pictures. I then realize that the email account I'm in is my boyfriends from when he needed to see if anyone had emailed him about a family emergency when his phone died. I didn't think too much of it and also saw something that interested me greatly! His premium x-rated site! I was actually excited because I was curious in what he enjoys. I'm not against porn. I feel it has it's purposes. So anyways, I browse and I'm thinking,"Cool. These are great and make me feel a bit better about myself." (Because we openly communicate about a lot in that department)

 

Then my heart dropped. Recent posts that he placed on this site were of his ex. Explicit ex pictures. A good handful. Now I'm not stupid. I'm sure there are plenty more. I know what she looks like obviously. I was super upset not just because of this but because I have sent pictures to him as well! I'm not the type of girl who is willing to be "showcased" in or out of a relationship. We actually had a long talk and discussed this a lot before we exchanged our little x files. I just have a bad feeling and feel a bit hurt. Is it wrong for me to feel this way?

 

The thing that really bothers me is that these pictures were posted when he was out of state, where she lives mind you, when we didn't get the chance to talk as often as we normally do, obviously. He had to deal with a close family member passing, which I totally understand although the probability of there being a connection is present and thought of. Just not confirmed. Should I be out of line thinking this way when someone I care about is posting ex x pics on an explicit site?

[d0nnivain]

Like you said, everyone has old pictures.

 

However, his recent activity of posting explicit pictures of an EX while he was in her state make this a much more complicated issue. I'd talk to him about it mentioning how you innocently came to stumble across them. Be prepared for sparks to fly.

[Strength in Healing]

You want advice, be honest with yourself.

 

Secondly, you are trying too hard to be logical. Sometimes it's best to follow your heart.

 

You are dating a useless idiot. I hope you somehow can get those pictures back off his phone before you break up and become an instant internet celeb like his assumingly unaware ex.

 

Then never speak to him again, he is trash.

 

The end

Edited May 24, 2014 by Strength in Healing

[FitChick]

I'd worry less about the ex's naked pics than your own naked pics. You should look for them on that website. Then if you plan to take new ones, make sure your face is hidden or cropped out and that the background isn't easily identifiable with you. If you have any scars or tattoos, cover them.

[Assasda]

Well, you don't know if he had her consent to posting them, or if that's what they were into as a couple.

 

If he posted them, as some kind of attack on her. You'd have something to worry about