toml Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 i met this girl 7 months ago on facebook through a friend. she lives in another country. she wanted some math help so i was helping her through skype. i was doing it for free as she was a friend of one of my good friends. so i spent a few months helping her as much as i could. i even bought her a xmas present! we used to talk about lots of things on skype. she used to tell me she liked this one guy and about her ex bf etc etc. anyway after april she finished exams. i said to her " i bet we wont skype anymore since you know dont need me for math". she said " why you say that?" i said because it what normally happens when theh dont need my for something anymore" she said well this time it will be different for you:) so since april iv asked when shes free for skype to just chat and catch up etc. shes been busy we havent skyped since beginning of april whereas before she used to 2 or 3 times a week and even ask me wen im free! anyways i was planning a holiday weekend with my friends for my birthday and i thiught why dont i go where she is so i went on holiday to her city. she knew i was coming for my bdy but also to see her thats why i chose her city. anyway the evening i flew i told her to come with her friends to our flat for dinner and parry and drinks. she came and was very cold to me. it was first time i saw her. she didnt even drink nor did any if her mates and she and her friends were not coming out i was suprised! we were meant to be partying for my bdy. i tried flirting with her and she was really rude and aggressive to me even though i made her dinner. why was she like this? is it because i was ugly in real life
d0nnivain Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 She may have been using you for math tutoring. If you have Skyped, she knew what you looked like so I doubt the in-person reality changed her mind about you. The fact that neither she nor her friends were partying with you tells me they don't party the way you do & your style may have scared her or made her re-evalute you as a person. Since she has a BF & you know this because you have talked about him with her, your choice to fly to her country & city could have been perceived by her as you wanting more from her than she was willing to give & she acted coldly toward you to chill your ardor.
Assasda Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Seems like you want something from her. Just because you tutored her, you have the right to come see her. Just because you made her dinner, you have to right to get anything you want from her. Kinda like you're buying her affection or time. If youre giving something freely, you shouldnt expect anything in return. Seems disingenuous
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