lori1203 Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Ive been dating someone for a couple months but its gotten pretty serious id say. This past week he mentioned to me he wanted me to meet his parents. So a couple days ago he asks if I want to get dinner with them friday and he will make sure they can. Thursday he said he talked to them and said they probably could. So yesterday I psyched myself up and got all dressed up and everything. An hour before we are supposed to meet he says he called them and they said they couldn't but he still wanted to take me to dinner. Well we ended up going but I was way overdressed and then we went to a movie afterward that he picked and he fell asleep through the whole movie!! I really wasn't mad about him falling asleep... he had a longwork week of getting up at 4am everyday but it did irritate me a little and made me feel disappointed about the whole night mainly that he tells me he wants me to meet the parents then last minute cant? He apologized numerous times for falling asleep but I brushed it off. Should I tell him im disappointed and explain or just keep it to myself and get over it? Maybe I made too much of it....
DArtagnan2 Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 It's Ok to be disappointed but you can't be upset with him or really his parents because his they had to cancel. You never know why they had to. If you are really upset like mad upset, then I think it may be something you are making too much out of. Again, being disappointed is ok and you can share your disappointment as long as it isn't backed by any kind of anger towards him or his folks. I wouldn't think there would be a need for that disposition. but thats me.
Author lori1203 Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 Not mad just disappointed. I think with the whole night. I understand things come up. My son was also spending the night with his father so we had the whole night together but after the movie he acted like he wanted to just go to bed... cant be mad at him for being tired but was hoping he'd invite me to stay the night since we dont get much opportunity to do that. Oh well.
J21 Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 (edited) Firstly, the parents cancelling wasn't his fault, so you gotta write that off. You don't know what came up, maybe they were sick or whatever. It's not like he was gonna just force them to come out because you were all dolled up. Secondly, you could've simply asked "Hey, so where are we going to eat? Are we still going to XXX?" and adjusted your attire accordingly. Unless you guys go out to fancy restaurants on a regular, I wouldn't have presumed we were going to that same place if the parents cancelled. Not to take away that meeting you on a date isn't special, but meeting the parents for the first time is an extra special occasion. For both of you I might add. A fancy restaurant might be something you guys choose to do, but if the extra special occasion was cancelled, I would not have presumed--or would have at the very least, ask where we would go to eat since dinner with the parents was cancelled. I've been getting up 520AM all week and I was just exhausted when Friday came around. He's been getting up 4 am everyday, so I can kinda imagine what he must've been feeling. Yeah it's poor manners, but I think you should cut him some slack for falling asleep in the movie. Again, it's not like he was able to help it. I understand you're disappointed, but it's not like he messed up on anything intentionally. His parents canceled (which he had no control over). You guys didn't communicate where you were gonna eat, and he's been getting up at the crack of dawn so he passed out. Edited May 24, 2014 by J21
Assasda Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 I think OP is disappointed because she didnt get to spend more time with him. If that was the case, you should've said "OK I'm all dressed up, we're not seeing your parents, but lets make a date of this" You'll get the opportunity again
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