crisp Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 hello, everybody I have a bit of a problem here. After the winter holiday I stoped my bc pills and took some pills because I had a hormonal imbalance. We tried to use a condom, but I think I was a bit allergic, I practically had to run to the bathroom in the middle of the action . Apparently it traumatised my bf who was reluctant to try it again, for fear I might get hurt. Of course, I took it really bad - he came to my place for one week and he wouldn't even touch me. Said he's not in the mood for sex. Ok. Apparently he was insecure because of his looks, his job etc. IT's crazy becausse he has a fabulous body and this week he got a great job. So all of a sudden he's back. I am really hurt because last week end I was at the end of it. I really wanted to give it another try, practically told him to stay one more day and he took the first chance and ran off at his place. So... I don't know. I'm really hurt, I mean if he feels like it "let's go", and if not, well, too bad for me? It's such a bad timing, with St. Valentine and next week we shall celebrate our first anniversary together. I told him I'm taking this week end all to myself, I want to see my friends and to take care of my self for a moment (we usually spend all week ends together). He was ok with it, but still deep down wanted us to meet. For sex, I s'ppose . Don't know what to do. Shall I give him another shot at it? Shall I buy him a Valentine present? He acts like I'm the biggest jerk, the most ununderstading gf... I am indeed upset. I just can't get over that (a month of ... nothing) in a second. And I sure don't feel like sleeping with him. Like I'm nummed. Could you give me a little piece of advice here? Thanks, I really do appreciate it.
Author crisp Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 Ok I'm sorry to insist, but could you guys please help me out a bit???? I am afraid I'm not objective enough, and acting out like a total b!tch to him is last on my list today. Thank you
tattoomytoe Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 i do not understand what you are asking?
Author crisp Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 He got into "no sex" phase for a month, didn't care s*** about my feelings. He got over it and nw he'd like to sink the pink. I got from furious to disapointed, to mad and vengeful. I don't know how to handle it. Part of me wants to dump his sorry a$$ because he is such a selfish man, other part of me says "it's valetine and you're gonna celebrate your one year anniversary" Am I wrong to take it that badly?
tattoomytoe Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 i can not tell you your feelings are wrong.... but stayiong with him JUST b/c Valentines is coming up, that is kinda lame. and the whole point of an anniversary is to Celebrate, not grudge against.
savethedrama4allama Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 So he got sh*tty with you because you had a reaction from a condom? How in the heck is he going to behave if you have kids together? Childbirth is a whole lot uglier than that... I guess if it were me, I'd tell him how the whole sex-less month felt, that I thought it was selfish and it hurt me and that I feel vengeful and disappointed...hopefully at that point he'd acknowledge that it was mean and apologize. Hopefully explain better why he did it, too. I find that talking honestly and openly is a good way to get rid yourself of a grudge you are holding. In the end, you either have to give up the grudge or break it off, and it doesn't sound like you want to break it off. But- that doesn't mean you should give up the "pink" at his whim after he's been withholding it for a month.
Author crisp Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 He got all "I'm an artist" stuff tonight (he's testing video effects, making videos, etc). So when he's off his inspiration he's kinda off everything. We don't see eachother enough and he acts as if everything were cool. I have repeatedly told him I am not "cool" at all. He gets mad and shuts me out. So he can keep it ti himself, this week end I'm off with the girls. If he waited one month without it, he can as well wait another week, can't he? I dread the moment where we'd have that talk. Probably St. Valentine. Can't even imagine how exchanging gifts would be. I mean, he sends me links with night gowns and all I feel like telling him is to f*ck off . I just looove St. Valentine, don't you?
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