vc87 Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I resigned up for an online dating site a couple weeks ago and I started talking with somewhere on there back and forth.. we met for dinner/drinks.. talked for hours, had a really nice time..we ended up going for coffee the following week, and again, enjoyed his company and the conversation.. I'm not looking to rush into anything at all, just in the early stages of getting to know each other; he's cool - like him so far.. doesn't seem like a problem at all, right? here's where i got myself into a little bit of a predicament.. a couple years ago, i was on another dating website, and i met a guy off of there - we hung out a bunch, but it was never anything serious dating wise - enjoyed his company as well, being totally honest, we did hook up a few times.. haven't seen in in about 6 months, but talk to him every so often randomly on facebook. It turns out, the new guy i've been talking to and the previous guy are brothers. I honestly had no idea, but it dawned on me the other night when we out for coffee and new guy mentioned something about something him and his brother did recently.. it's like lightning bolt went off in my head, and I instantly connected all the similarities between them. I didn't say anything at the time.. but I know I have to say something to him about this.. just not sure how to approach it. any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. out of the fish in the sea to pick from, I somehow picked brothers.. lol
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 They clearly share traits that you like. You have to tell him (the current guy). You can't just show up at some family thing & be introduced to the brother. It shouldn't be a big deal because it was a long time ago but it has to be his choice.
Author vc87 Posted May 23, 2014 Author Posted May 23, 2014 I just feel so awkward bringing this up.. No real easy way to approach it.. feel like I'm hiding it from him in a sense so I definitely want him to know.. If he asks how I know him, just say we met and became friends off another site?
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Just say hey after you mentioned [whatever] the other day I got to thinking.. . . do you know [insert: brother's name]? When he says yes, then you say it's a small world. I actually met him on another dating site, years ago. Then sit back & see what he does / how he reacts. 1
Author vc87 Posted May 23, 2014 Author Posted May 23, 2014 Lol.. I just have no idea how he will react to this.. Not sure how a person would.. Feel like its a soap opera waiting to happen.. haha
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I don't know how he will react either & it kind of is a soap but you have to "come clean". Sorry I couldn't resist the pun. The key will be you remaining calm & focusing on the small world aspects of the coincidence.
Chocolat Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 You need to tell the current brother that you know the other brother. I'm guessing that the other brother will tell current brother that you hooked up, which may put the kabosh on anything developing with current brother. On the other hand, who knows?
ChooseTruth Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Lol.. I just have no idea how he will react to this.. Not sure how a person would.. Feel like its a soap opera waiting to happen.. haha I think it's risky and will be super awkward, etc, etc...but it will speak volumes about your character and level of honesty when you come clean. If it comes out another way...then it could be really big trouble. You are still in the clear right now. See it as an opportunity to show just how honest you are. That's much more important than some weird coincidence with the brothers. 1
bu2002 Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 You have to tell the current brother and let him know it's not weird for you. Then he will figure things out from there. But he deserves to know.
Author vc87 Posted May 23, 2014 Author Posted May 23, 2014 He never came out and said his brother's name or even his last name for it to be totally obvious they are, but I know they are based on the thing he said.. When I was originally talking to the first brother, I knew he had older siblings, but I never met them.. So I was basically in the clear here up until this point they were related.
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