DudeMan27 Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I posted my story about a month ago in another thread but theres been new developments since and I need some fresh advice I guess. Basically a month ago I was in a friends wedding and paired up with a girl I knew from highschool who is very attractive and I developed a bit of a crush on her. I was kicking myself after for not talking to her more at the wedding and didn't see much interest from her so figured it was a lost cause. Ffwd two weeks to another friends wedding, and the groom from the prior wedding tells me, "oh ya, I was supposed to tell you that (so and so) is interested in you." I just told his wife (this girls friend) that we should all go out together sometime, which she just said okay. A few days later I texted my friend and told him to have his wife just send me her number if she's interested and I'll take care of it myself - I didn't want to wait around too long. That was a week ago and I still haven't received a message with this girls number. So I really don't know if something somehow changed, or it just slipped everyones mind. But here I am back at square one. Now I REALLY hate thinking this way, but within the past week, this girl sent me a facebook invitation to like some health food store, and it really doesn't appear she sent it to anyone else I don't think. ALso, I checked in at a lunch spot on sunday with my friend and she liked it. This girl has never sent me any pages or liked any statuses in the 5 or 6 years we've been facebook friends. If I'm honest with myself, it means nothing, but I cant help holding on to that. Now my question is, I'm tired of waiting and tired of thinking/over thinking and just want to talk to her. It looks like facebook messaging will be my only option. How in the world do I go about it? Just start an innocent conversation? Just say, hey I know we didn't get to talk a whole lot at the wedding but if you want to get together some time heres my number...." Its been a month since the wedding we were in, but I do know she made the effort to have her friend let me know she's "interested" So I'm assuming by know she knows I was told. I just don't know how to strike up the conversation or how lame it is to try to pick up a girl over facebook?
d0nnivain Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Under the circumstances you describe -- knowing each other from HS & becoming reacquainted at the wedding, using FB is OK. Just get it from OL to IRL soon. Your window of opportunity is closing because it's been a month since the wedding.
Assasda Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Jus tmessage her on face book "What is your number?" When you get her number, you call her you ask what she is doing, you talk about the wedding and joke with her. Then tell her about the lunch place that she liked, and tell her when you'll be there, then ask her if she'd like to come along
Author DudeMan27 Posted May 28, 2014 Author Posted May 28, 2014 I agree with you I needed to act soon, but unfortunately I'm starting to think maybe the ship has sailed. It's been two weeks since I asked for my friends wife to send me her number and I haven't received a response. I have to think something changed because if this girl were truly interested her friend would want to help her out, or this girl would ask her friend if they told me that she was interested yet. I just regret not finding out more at the wedding. All I was told was "yeah I was supposed to tell you she's interested" and if I would have got more info I'd have a better grasp of the situation. I mean I did my part, I asked for the number to make a move, I just was dumb enough to think they would send it and I waited just long enough to psyche myself out and believe she's not interested any longer. I'm even starting to think maybe they just told me that, hoping I would make a move and try to hook their two single friends up, and this girl didn't really say anything at all.
jbelle6 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 I agree with you I needed to act soon, but unfortunately I'm starting to think maybe the ship has sailed. It's been two weeks since I asked for my friends wife to send me her number and I haven't received a response. I have to think something changed because if this girl were truly interested her friend would want to help her out, or this girl would ask her friend if they told me that she was interested yet. I just regret not finding out more at the wedding. All I was told was "yeah I was supposed to tell you she's interested" and if I would have got more info I'd have a better grasp of the situation. I mean I did my part, I asked for the number to make a move, I just was dumb enough to think they would send it and I waited just long enough to psyche myself out and believe she's not interested any longer. I'm even starting to think maybe they just told me that, hoping I would make a move and try to hook their two single friends up, and this girl didn't really say anything at all. I disagree, under these circumstances I would contact her on Facebook or wherever. If I already talked to my friend about a guy I would not bring it up again, I would assume he just wasn't interested.
Targetlock Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 act soon while the ball is still in the game so to speak, got to jump at these opportunities and make the most of them. 1
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