thelonewolflegend Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 basically being distant and complain and basically act like they all this to you and give you empty promises then they just all of a sudden basically talk and throw you to side of road like piece of **** it makes no sense why cant just be real talk and then work things out or stay in it? seems like don't care about you whats the deal?
Author thelonewolflegend Posted May 23, 2014 Author Posted May 23, 2014 I just don't understand why she *****ed complained and then like trying to be distant as possible get away from me not being real honest with me upfront until purposely wont come over and start big fight wanting to talk. why?
Author thelonewolflegend Posted May 23, 2014 Author Posted May 23, 2014 seriously lol what is the reason it doesn't make sense
bluenote Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 None really knows what women want, such complicated and sofisticated animals, if a man says he knows women, he means he was tought a lesson in manipulation. They always have the upper hand because options are always around, she will keep you on a string untill she is sure or makes a decision which way to go, then drops you like warm sh...., you should expect and know this. Dont put all you eggs in one basket. Ok sometimes they play games to see if you are for reall, its dificult to distinguish, 1
skela Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 None really knows what women want, such complicated and sofisticated animals, if a man says he knows women, he means he was tought a lesson in manipulation. They always have the upper hand because options are always around, she will keep you on a string untill she is sure or makes a decision which way to go, then drops you like warm sh...., you should expect and know this. Dont put all you eggs in one basket. Ok sometimes they play games to see if you are for reall, its dificult to distinguish, Lovely depiction of women. And I guess the guys behaviour has nothing to do with it. 1
LostOnes05 Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Lovely depiction of women. And I guess the guys behaviour has nothing to do with it. I think it really translates to women are pros at playing the hot and cold game. They can literally like you one minute and in the next be as cold as block of ice in the winter, in Chicago. Just speaking from personal experience.
Dallers Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 @Stonecoldmike this is a dating advice line not abuse line, why not spend your time dating another 100 girls to analyse. @OP This sadly is what dating involves, even more so when it comes to online dating. In fact it is not just girls either nobody really knows what they want, as I guy I used to think I knew what I wanted as I would walk into every relationship I wanted and it would just happen. Either I got older or times have changed and my talents of old no longer work and you have to go through a trial and error process each time. There is no right or wrong but you have to watch for the signs and know when you are being messed about or need to turn heel and run. Sadly it involves a lot of rejection, but that is life, you are rejected for good reason 99% of the time I find as that person has no idea what they want, who they want and sometimes it is karma's way of protecting you from a bad person. I highly recommend you have a read of Marni Kinrys - Get Inside Her Head. I have back to backed it 3 times as it is the best I have found and it changed my entire outlook of women and dating allowing me literally into their head. I went from being a beta, shy and unapproachable guy to putting her advice into play and watching it work. As it worked I gained confidence, a greater respect for myself and faced many of my fears and anxieties head on. I am far stronger for it. It is not a PUA book nor will it tell you how women work, as above nobody knows. It will allow you to understand why things happen and areas in which you are going wrong. Take every women with a pinch of salt, because once the plate is empty she probably wont be offering to do the dishes.
DArtagnan2 Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 is this about the girl you only wanted to be friends with benefits with? 1
GoreSP Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 I'm not sure why people do this. I say people because guys do it too. I get that dumping someone is not fun but being dumped is a lot worse and to be honest, I think the dumpee pill is a lot easier to swallow when it's done with a little respect - which does happen a lot. To be fair though, everyone here has dumped someone who blew up and made a huge scene so I guess this is why we are so scared to tell someone you aren't into them...
d0nnivain Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Most people are not honest & straightforward when it comes to their emotions. Being forthcoming makes them vulnerable & that's scary because it means that they can get hurt. No one wants to be hurt. Some girls, especially younger ones, manipulate boys for the ego stroke. They show off to their friends that they can get guys to do anything. Guys aren't any better -- some will say anything just to get sex. thelonewolflegend --I'm trying to give you the benefit of the doubt. OL is a fantasy place & some people vent harder here then IRL. However, if your RL is as scattershot as some of your posts -- wanting to know how to romance a girl, wondering why she rejected your romantic advances & trying to figure out how to "make" (your word) a girl be your FWB -- you may be sending mixed messages which in return is getting you inconsistent responses from the women you meet. 1
bluenote Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Altimately I did not mean to put women in a bad light, fact is every man has sisters and is born and raised by a mom, if women are inadely bad they would not do all this. The other fact is since one is born and raised by a woman and we know its a task that requires skill in all spheres and aspects, nature requires them to sometime be deceptive to protect their loved ones from the harsh trueths of the world of from physical harm. They are better than men at deception, manipulation etc. But ofcourse in a good way concerning that. I remember when a child didn't want to take medicines, the mom told her that kids who don't want to take meds will be visited by a gorilla, or that the spoon with food on it is a train or car that must enter town which is at the kids throat etc. thats manipulation. Its not to say that women are bad and manipulative, was just trying to remind the gentleman of the nature of the ladies and that in all its good and bad ways he must expect,consider and remember it. The definition I gave to him is not a comparison with men, it was in the context of what I interpreted his problem was. Men are also highly deceptive and do tell lots of lies in their unending lust for more and more conquests. We are diferent that way.
Frank2thepoint Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 basically being distant and complain and basically act like they all this to you and give you empty promises then they just all of a sudden basically talk and throw you to side of road like piece of **** it makes no sense why cant just be real talk and then work things out or stay in it? seems like don't care about you whats the deal? I just don't understand why she *****ed complained and then like trying to be distant as possible get away from me not being real honest with me upfront until purposely wont come over and start big fight wanting to talk. why? To me, this sounds like you enjoy complaining, being dumped on. If you have self-respect, and value yourself, instead of complaining why this girl acts a certain way with you, just set your boundary to not accept such behavior. Confront her on why she is acting this way. If she doesn't answer or still acts distant, then just walk away from her. It is that simple.
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