Andie25 Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Bf blew me off and I overreacted a bit and told him to please not contact me again. I explained my reasoning--that I don't want to continue with someone who isn't reliable. I just got out of a bad relationship with tons of games and lying and I don't want to do it again (he knows this). He went completely ballistic, telling me he wasn't going to contact me again, and called me a bunch of nasty names. I apologized for overreacting several times, but now he is ignoring me and refuses to talk through it. This is typical-he refuses to forgive and harps on past arguments forever. He always wants to be in control and has a terrible temper. The past couple days he's gotten really active on Facebook, which he's normally a ghost on. Friending random girls, posting dramatic statuses like "on to the next one" and "when one door closes another opens", acting like he's never been happier. I don't know what he's trying to accomplish, if anything, but I would feel immature if I defriended him. I wish he could act like the grown man that he is instead of a bratty teenager. Anyways is there anything more I can/should do to try to work things out?
TXGuy Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Unfriend him. It is not immature at all. You broke up with him and told him to never contact you again. So don't contact him. Move on with your life. It doesn't sound like you like or respect him anyway. 4
Dudette Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Defriend and block. Why do you want to work things out with someone like him.
Zahara Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I explained my reasoning--that I don't want to continue with someone who isn't reliable. I just got out of a bad relationship with tons of games and lying and I don't want to do it again (he knows this). You ended with him for a reason. He hasn't been giving you what you want and even after expressing yourself, he's still choosing not to give you what you want. Besides, why would you want to be with someone that always wants to be in control and has a nasty temper. The thing is, don't threaten the relationship against someone to get what you want because chances are if they take you up on your offer, you're the one trying to figure out ways to get them back seeing that you weren't quite sincere with your motives.
soccerrprp Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I wish he could act like the grown man that he is instead of a bratty teenager. This IS him.
almond Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 You explained to him that you just got out of a "bad relationship" that involved tons of games and lying, you then likened him to your ex and told him to never contact you again. I can see why he's pissed off. You can't hold it against him for not wanting to "talk it through." Instead of doing this when he blew you off, you told him to get out of your life. If my boyfriend threatened to leave me over something like this, without having tried to resolve it in a more reasonable way first, I'd walk. I would personally find it controlling and manipulative, and unhealthy. Threats like this eat away at the sense of security and trust between a couple rather quickly, especially if it's only early days. You messed up, and he is now choosing to move on. Delete and block him, work on letting go of the baggage from your past relationships, and learn how to communicate and not resort to threats whenever something comes up that you're unhappy with. 2
Fondue Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 You explained to him that you just got out of a "bad relationship" that involved tons of games and lying, you then likened him to your ex and told him to never contact you again. I can see why he's pissed off. You can't hold it against him for not wanting to "talk it through." Instead of doing this when he blew you off, you told him to get out of your life. If my boyfriend threatened to leave me over something like this, without having tried to resolve it in a more reasonable way first, I'd walk. I would personally find it controlling and manipulative, and unhealthy. Threats like this eat away at the sense of security and trust between a couple rather quickly, especially if it's only early days. You messed up, and he is now choosing to move on. Delete and block him, work on letting go of the baggage from your past relationships, and learn how to communicate and not resort to threats whenever something comes up that you're unhappy with. I have to agree with this post. You told him it was over, so he just took it as such and went with it. With that said, I don't think it's mature of him to be a crybaby about it. ALso, I think it's best that you're out of this relationship either way. You mentioned in your post he has a bad temper and is in general kind of a dweeb.
stateofgrace Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 With all due respect, you blatantly told him not to contact you ever again and now he's just following suit.. so you can't really be mad at him for doing so.. HOWEVER, with that being said, it sounds like you dodged a bullet anyways. The guy seems totally immature. Not sure how old you both are, but he's acting like he's 15. Anyone who posts their dirty laundry on Facebook are drama queens (or I guess "kings" in this case..) I think you should, as others have said, unfriend and block him on Facebook, and don't look back. Move on. He is not worth it. He won't change, this is who he is. It took one little fight to make you see that. Take that for what it is and find someone more mature and level-headed. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 With all due respect, you blatantly told him not to contact you ever again and now he's just following suit.. so you can't really be mad at him for doing so.. HOWEVER, with that being said, it sounds like you dodged a bullet anyways. The guy seems totally immature. Not sure how old you both are, but he's acting like he's 15. Anyone who posts their dirty laundry on Facebook are drama queens (or I guess "kings" in this case..) I think you should, as others have said, unfriend and block him on Facebook, and don't look back. Move on. He is not worth it. He won't change, this is who he is. It took one little fight to make you see that. Take that for what it is and find someone more mature and level-headed. AMEN!!! Time to make your next FB status "On to the next one!" 1
jbelle6 Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 If you told him not to contact you then...BUT! About the Facebook behavior, I dated a 40 year old who did that crap, so don't expect him to outgrow it any time soon. Also, I will never again date anyone who blows me off without a very good reason or someone who constantly says they are too busy for me. I think you dodged a bullet.
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