WarmSummer Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Alright guys I'm quite confused as this is my first time encountering a dumper who would be pissed/angry/ bitter or whatever, up to almost 2 years (to the present to be exact). My encounters before were not like this as they would be friendly after 6 months or after a year. So here goes: She dump on May 2012 while blaming me for everything, I begged and being needy for 4 days (like cried in front of her while hugging her when she dropped the bomb. Well to be honest it was my first time to cry for a woman), I realized it was wrong mentally and physically because I do have a frail body and I was already an emotional wreak at that time that I decided to do NC because I'm getting sick literally. After getting well and getting enough rest that I search what to do. At that I got blocked at facebook by her. On June 2012 still did the NC and I started to feel better and realized there are far more better women in the world and started to move on then she emailed me that I'm needed on the project to manage in behalf of our president by our interest group and she will not go if I would. I told her it would be shame if she couldn't go as her long preparations would be wasted then she told me that's because I was moving on and she was going to help me move on. I replied that's ok so let's settle this you go and take over my post at the same time participate while I stay home and take care of my little sister and it would be a win-win situation, her reply it's because I'm needed there and I should not miss out. Afterwards, I did some light and cheerful small talk then politely call it a night. After some time she would email and the same scenario would happen for days on end. A day before the project, she mailed the members that she wouldn't go if I go and lo and behold she did go even if I was present. After the project my close associates mailed me that she would look at where I am and would get pissed if I interact with other female associates. Then I realized that the main reason for the BU was she was jealous to a female associate whom I become close friends with due to the fact she was more beautiful than my ex and she thought I was hitting on her while I was instructed by my superior to guide her as she's new. July 2012 I continued doing NC then attempted to get back with my ex subtly and she was still spiteful. I concluded it would go nowhere fast so I made a decision to just close this chapter and I thanked and complimented her for being an awesome gal and for the time we were together. Her reply was utter anger hell bent to eliminate her from her life and etc etc etc. She commanded me the following: Like not going to her school, avoiding her friends and classmates, avoid my friends who studies at her school and other things she ordered that I can't remember at the same time she left our interest group. I just replied whatever and just walked away then deleted my facebook account and didn't contact her for good. April 2013 I made a new account after going NC since I deleted my facebook account then started re-uploading my pictures that me and my buddies saved from my old account. After a few mins of tagging my friends I got blocked by her without me doing anything to her (No adding as friend, message nor even view her profile). My friend pm-ed me to try search her name and I did and it didn't show her name then I pm-ed back why was I asked to search her name and my buddy told me I just got blocked and sent me her status saying she would exact revenge moments after I got blocked and etc at the end of it she was able to say I was now dating someone new. That creep-ed me out. So I just continue with my life and everytime we coincidentally meet it's either she's giving me this pissed look or head down. I just look at her then smile then continue to where I was going. Aug 2013 There was an event that she was teaching something related to our interests but that she joined another group. When I was not there yet she was composed and good as observed by my fellow associates but when I arrived her composure was shattered and I could see her shaking and keep glancing to my location to the point that I grabbed a sit and sat down for her lecture on the subject at hand and the other participants were looking at me as they could notice that my ex was looking at me. After the event she kept passing by at my team to which I just didn't bother and I told my team to call it a night. Present: I'm still blocked at her facebook, when we meet she still gives me this pissed off look or head down or try to catch my attention. I just wave, smile at her then go to where I'm heading or what I was doing. My question is: What's up with her? It's been 2 years now. P.S. Woops! Sorry guys it got too long! XD
elseaacych Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Girls are mysterious creatures. Many times, we don't even understand ourselves. Don't try to understand her. There's nothing for you to understand aside from she doesn't want you in her life so she shut you out, plain and simple, and she only acts weird around you because she doesn't know how to act around you because you're an ex. There is no book of manners on how to treat an ex, as far as I know, other than the NC Guide. So stick to it and work on you. 1
Natsume21 Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 She's angry at you, more than likely, cause you aren't giving her the time of day. Let's be honest, a lot of women absolutely LOVE it when a man they dump pines for them. It gives them an ego boost saying "I must be amazing cause he won't let me go." and justifies they did the right thing by dumping you. By you getting on with your life and ignoring her, it must gnaw at her ego, so she's trying to get away from you so her ego won't be bruised. You are doing an amazing job at handling this, dude. Have a beer, on me. Natsume21 4
Author WarmSummer Posted May 23, 2014 Author Posted May 23, 2014 Oh Natsume21, thank you for the enlightenment! So that's how it is! Alright then so I'll call it solved. Oh btw cheers! elseaacych, oh yeah I agree with you mostly NC guides but one thing is certain after what I've searched within the span of 4 months is that: To understand women follow at what she does, not on what she speaks. As the aged old cliche: "Action speaks louder than words". So it seems she shut me out? I'll accept that as closure and look for a better person suitable for long term. Thanks guys! For helping me understood a 2 year old dilemma. 3
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