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Michelle ma Belle

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Keenly Established Member

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This article could go both ways?

 

 

The entire article perpetuates everything wrong with OLD.

 

Women : sit back and do nothing

 

 

Men : " man up" and do everything.

 

 

Zzzzzzzzzzzz.

 

All that a BS about how she " really wishes she could message a guy and say he's hot, but men like the chase so much that I can't " what a cop out.

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FitChick Established Member

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If a man cannot 'man up' and contact a woman on a dating website, it's doubtful he'd have the balls to approach someone in public. I think it's a good way to gain confidence if you can meet women, even if it doesn't work out, by any means.

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Keenly Established Member

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If a man cannot 'man up' and contact a woman on a dating website, it's doubtful he'd have the balls to approach someone in public. I think it's a good way to gain confidence if you can meet women, even if it doesn't work out, by any means.

 

I'm tired of the helpless damsil card that's always played by women.

 

 

If ladies want dates, and are looking for some one, doing nothing is not the way to go about it.

 

How about THEY gain some confidence and stop hiding behind outdated traditions as an excuse to avoid rejection?

 

I find confident women incredibly attractive. What I don't find attractive is when a woman decides she wants to try online dating, so she makes a profile with little to no information and then kicks back and proceeds to do absolutely nothing.

 

If you want it, DO SOMETHING about it! If you aren't actively trying to make something happen, then you don't really want it.

 

 

The entire article exists with the false claim of " we women wrote this article.in order to help men " but that's BS. " helping us " consist of saying okay guys, you do everything, and we will just lay back and get pampered, and BOOM you'll have success!

 

 

Come on.....

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kodakgirl Established Member

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I agree with you Keenly-- the stuff on the profile text and pictures I think is good, for BOTH sexes, but the part on men messaging and the overall tone is very much "if you are a man you must do the work." That's BS.

 

And what on earth with the women-shouldn't-message stuff?? Come on. I'm a bit of an old-fashioned romantic but even I don't live in the days where the most a woman could do was drop her handkerchief in front of a man!! You aren't proposing marriage-- you are saying hello. Even if you're into "chase" stuff that can come later-- there's no point in running if someone doesn't even know you want them to come after you. I message fellows first all the time. The ones who like me are excited (and are almost always the ones to ask for a meet, or second date, etc., despite me not bothering with "chase" stuff). Men who are put off by my reaching out aren't ones I want.

 

I really don't understand attitudes like this. Yes, men should make an effort with their profile and pictures and messages. Women should also make an effort with their profile and pictures and messages. The end.

normal person Established Member

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If a man cannot 'man up' and contact a woman on a dating website, it's doubtful he'd have the balls to approach someone in public. I think it's a good way to gain confidence if you can meet women, even if it doesn't work out, by any means.

 

Is it really a matter of "manning up" though? I've never heard of a guy being too afraid to send a message. What I do hear of is plenty of guys complaining that they rarely, if ever, get responded to. I don't blame the girls -- I've seen girls' accounts with dozens to hundreds of messages. I've seen and laughed at how bad they are.

 

It's a shame the woman who wrote that article tried to reinforce the idea that women who reach out are seen as unattractive or desperate. In real life maybe some women might get this applied to them, but online I think it's a different story. Much like in real life, I think women would be wise to try to just get the attention of a guy she likes via winking, rating, a simple message, etc. Then let the guy do the leg work. This is the only method I use for OLD -- I just pick from the girls who are interested. 100% success rate.

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soccerrprp Established Member

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This is the only method I use for OLD -- I just pick from the girls who are interested. 100% success rate.

 

Excellent method! :D

KathyM Established Member

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I think it's good for a man to initiate contact with women he is interested in, and not just sit back waiting for whomever to contact him. Women can and should do the same--be the selectors, not just passively wait and hope for someone to contact them. And then also consider those whom you may not have initially had an interest, but who seem to be interested in you. Might as well use both methods. I think those who take action have more results, and those who take into consideration those who show interest also have greater chance of finding someone from OLD. Being passive on there is not a good thing, for either men or women.

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Hopeful30 Established Member

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I'm tired of the helpless damsil card that's always played by women.

 

I'm not attacking you personally, but when men say "I hate when women play the X card" it just sounds like an excuse for the guy not wanting to do something in particular.

 

"I'm tired of the damsel in distress card" = "I don't wanna do the work"

"I'm tired of women pulling the chivalry card" = "I dont like being a gentleman/I don't want to hold the door"

"Women have been fighting to be equal..." = "I don't want to pick up the tab"

 

It's one thing to not want to do particular things, it's another to indirectly blame women for "pulling a card" or a reference to something historical just to justify your not wanting to do it.

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Michelle ma Belle Established Member

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I'm tired of the helpless damsil card that's always played by women.

 

 

If ladies want dates, and are looking for some one, doing nothing is not the way to go about it.

 

How about THEY gain some confidence and stop hiding behind outdated traditions as an excuse to avoid rejection?

 

I find confident women incredibly attractive. What I don't find attractive is when a woman decides she wants to try online dating, so she makes a profile with little to no information and then kicks back and proceeds to do absolutely nothing.

 

If you want it, DO SOMETHING about it! If you aren't actively trying to make something happen, then you don't really want it.

 

 

The entire article exists with the false claim of " we women wrote this article.in order to help men " but that's BS. " helping us " consist of saying okay guys, you do everything, and we will just lay back and get pampered, and BOOM you'll have success!

 

 

Come on.....

 

I think you're another one that needs a hug :p

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TheGuard13 Established Member

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Yeah, I don't OLD but that sounds like bull**** to me.

 

 

Except for the handsome part.

 

Definitely be that if you want dates online.

topaMAXX Established Member

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If a man cannot 'man up' and contact a woman on a dating website, it's doubtful he'd have the balls to approach someone in public. I think it's a good way to gain confidence if you can meet women, even if it doesn't work out, by any means.

 

This is false. I often approach women in public. And I'm not even on a dating website.

irc333 Established Member

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Right, seems all dating advice given is given to men, you could probably count on 1 hand how much "dating advice" is out there for women to get men to approach them.

 

 

This article could go both ways?

 

 

The entire article perpetuates everything wrong with OLD.

 

Women : sit back and do nothing

 

 

Men : " man up" and do everything.

 

 

Zzzzzzzzzzzz.

 

All that a BS about how she " really wishes she could message a guy and say he's hot, but men like the chase so much that I can't " what a cop out.

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