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My ex texted me "How are you?".

 

I dont think I'll respond. Dont think I'm ready to talk casually tbh. Because I still have feelings for her and would like to get back together.... Now I'm thinking if I respond well be back together... God dammit.

 

Never thought she talk to me again too.

 

Any words of advice?

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My ex texted me "How are you?".

 

I dont think I'll respond. Dont think I'm ready to talk casually tbh. Because I still have feelings for her and would like to get back together.... Now I'm thinking if I respond well be back together... God dammit.

 

Never thought she talk to me again too.

 

Any words of advice?

 

Ignore and block her number. That's pretty much it.

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What if she wants to get back together?

Simon Phoenix Established Member

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What if she wants to get back together?

 

Then she'll send more than a lame-ass "How are you?" text message and it won't matter if you respond or block her, she'll pursue aggressively and put herself out there. A "how are you?" text message means less than nothing.

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If she did can she not say more than "how are you?"

Total breadcrumb, mine said he missed talking to me, not that he missed me and I ignored it. I don't want to be strung along.

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She threw you away! I hope you have enough self respect to at least expect her to make an effort to get you back besides a blase "how are you". God.

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Thanks guys. Just needed some support. I know I shouldn't but I just had a moment of weakness.

Its funny how you can give advice to others but once it happens to yourself its "different". Dam emotions.

Thanks again guys and gals!

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greenbee81 Established Member

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Be strong my friend.

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David87 Established Member

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Only respond when she says something about getting back together, if that's what you want.

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inlin Member

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Do you guys think me not responding looks like that I haven't moved on? Or that I'm still hurt?

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Do you guys think me not responding looks like that I haven't moved on? Or that I'm still hurt?

 

First of all, it doesn't matter what you look like to her, but you look a hell of a lot stronger not responding than you do by lapping up her contact like a obedient puppy dog.

 

To answer the question, you look more like a chump to her in responding to stuff like that than you do in not responding.

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greenbee81 Established Member

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Doesn't matter what she thinks!

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Do you guys think me not responding looks like that I haven't moved on? Or that I'm still hurt?

 

It looks like you accepted the situation and you decided to move on :)

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Do you guys think me not responding looks like that I haven't moved on? Or that I'm still hurt?

 

It looks like you actually have a backbone not made of jello :)

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Its only depends on you if you feel that you still love her then respond her otherwise ignore her.. I you wanna get back with her then talk with her otherwise just avoid her.. I think this is the most simple way for you buddy..

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Do you guys think me not responding looks like that I haven't moved on? Or that I'm still hurt?

 

The beauty of "not responding" is that she doesn't get access to any information about you.

 

Breadcrumbs are given in order to take something from you for free, no charge. either it's attention, ego boost, information, she wants only to take, and to give nothing in return, without paying even the slightest attention to your needs, or your feelings. A Pure total 100% selfishness.

 

Now, there are different levels of breadcrumbs.

 

For example "I miss you so much" is at least trying to pretend affection.

But "How are you" is the lowest form of breadcrumbs, because its rude, and it comes without any mask. it's just "give me information about your self and after that go to hell"

 

Your winning is to keep preventing her any information about yourself. If she seeks information, she can go to GOOGLE!

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What if she wants to get back together?

 

Ignore the message but don't block her.

 

There is a chance that down the line she will send you an "I miss you message." That's when you strike.

 

Until then, do nothing and carry on with your life.

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Ignore the message but don't block her.

 

There is a chance that down the line she will send you an "I miss you message." That's when you strike.

 

Until then, do nothing and carry on with your life.

 

"I miss you" still isn't good enough. "I miss you" is a bigger crumb, but a crumb none the less. "I miss you" can mean that she misses your friendly support -- in fact that's what it usually means. "Striking" at that is usually a fool's errand.

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"I miss you" still isn't good enough. "I miss you" is a bigger crumb, but a crumb none the less. "I miss you" can mean that she misses your friendly support -- in fact that's what it usually means. "Striking" at that is usually a fool's errand.

 

Eh. Opinions on that differ.

 

If I were to ever get an "I miss you" text. Then I'd just respond, "Then do something about it."

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Eh. Opinions on that differ.

 

If I were to ever get an "I miss you" text. Then I'd just respond, "Then do something about it."

 

I think I need a button with 10 likes for this post.

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Eh. Opinions on that differ.

 

If I were to ever get an "I miss you" text. Then I'd just respond, "Then do something about it."

 

And you'd probably get yourself embroiled into a weird friendzone situation that is ultimately unsatisfying and leaves you further distraught and pissed. That's typically the way that goes down.

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Eh. Opinions on that differ.

 

If I were to ever get an "I miss you" text. Then I'd just respond, "Then do something about it."

 

This "I miss you" text doesnt mean jack s*** either. There are thousands of threads on here where the ex says such things, and it means JUST as much as a "hey whats up" thing. Hell, even my ex told me that as she was out banging other people.

 

Unless they say "I want you back", it means nothing.

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If you still care about her and want her back then of course you should respond. Be honest and open with her. That is the only way to treat people. I would tell her you are heartbroken and missing her if that is the truth.

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I doubt I'll reply. I know that shes going on vacation soon so why would she bother to try to get back together anyways. She also said that we cant be friends after the BU and that she needs time to heal even though she dumped me. Maybe shes regretting her decision, who knows.

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