Thewayitwas2 Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Will be dating someone (maybe) for about a month when I go in for nasal surgery. My nose was broken years ago and now it is collapsing. I also plan to have a skin laser at same time. I told him I was having nasal surgery and he immediately offered to help. But I don't want to involve him although I don't want to be rude. What would you suggest?
happywithlife Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 If you have someone lined up to help you already, simply say thanks for the offer but my mom/sister/friend has promised to help me. Then suggest a date idea for when you are feeling up to seeing him next. 2
Carlye_W Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I think it's nice that he's reaching out to you after so little time together. By you not accepting help that may even be a sign to him that you are pushing you aware. Recovering from illness/surgery is a very personal and intimate thing. Would you consider compromising and letting him feel like you've let him in a little? For example, if he picks you up and drops you home after your surgery, but you explain to him you'd rather your mum or best friend look after you. Be mindful of what his offering means, and also what you're saying to him by turning it down. 1
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