sportygirl89 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 I tried being friends with my ex a few months after. He wouldn't have anything to do with it. He has PTSD and probably other mental health issues from serving in Iraq. He told me a week ago he was happy about being single. Then a friend had shown me that he was in a relationship on facebook on Tuesday. He claims that this girl is not meant for just sex. I'm usually a good girl and don't sleep around in between dating (just way too gross with how people are these days). So I was confused at what he meant. He got mad that I knew about his relationship (but why post it on facebook if he doesn't want people finding out about it (I have him blocked). I just feel so sorry for his new girlfriend. He'll treat her the same we he treated me. He left me when I was sick and literally there was no communication on certain issues. When there are issues he will bounce and not talk about it. I'm glad its her and not me. No more pain or heart ache after his lies. Maybe I did need this for a wake up. But we were trying to at least be friendly and eventually become friends one day. I've given up on that. Funny thing is he believes he is a good person but doesn't know the pain he has caused me. It should be interesting to see how long it lasts, which until he gets his PTSD checked out and onto regular therapy nothing will last for good. This was one of those passionate relationships, but also mentally exhausting relationships. I was so worried about him either committing suicide or him having another seizure (from not taking his medications on a regular basis or drinking bottles of alcohol a week). I wish him the best I really do. But he won't bring me down with him. I've wasted a year of my life to get over him. But no more pain, no more emotions towards him. I'm just done with him and feeling free. I pity the new girlfriend I really do. If only she knew what she was in for. Not my worries any longer. I'm sure he'll keep it a secret from her though (as I tried to get him the correct help for it).
learning_slowly Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Some people are negative, either through their own doing or their environment. He may continuously be negative, but you're no longer in that path. Try to find positive things to do with your life and hopefully somebody new who will be positive will turn up. Good luck.
Author sportygirl89 Posted May 23, 2014 Author Posted May 23, 2014 Some people are negative, either through their own doing or their environment. He may continuously be negative, but you're no longer in that path. Try to find positive things to do with your life and hopefully somebody new who will be positive will turn up. Good luck. He called me names such as psycho when I was just expressing my feelings to him. All my friends think I at least deserved to know about him getting into a relationship not finding about it on social media. I would have done the same if he felt that way about me. I finally told him may he rot in hell for eternity. I don't think he liked it because he actually apologized with no cuss words involved and said sorry for playing with my emotions. He cannot have his cake and eat it too. I asked that he at least treat that girl better then how he treated me or not to be in a relationship if he couldn't treat girls well. I want no female to go through the pain I've gone through. Caring for someone who needs help but didn't want it...is exhausting. I pity the new girlfriend I really do. When I would ask about an issue he wouldn't say anything about something. Like if I asked if we could talk more or whatever he had no response to that (while dating). Just wish he had picked someone else for his first victim after his divorce. Not me. I didn't deserve this pain.
learning_slowly Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 People can take a long time to grow up. I know it took me a long time. Even if he realises he hurt you, he probably doesn't realise how much, and probably won't unless the same happens to him. Just use this as a learning experience and try to meet somebody who will treat you with respect. But that will mean you are not so dependent on them. I think the secret to a happier life is to keep a constant of close friends as well as a partner. Enough of my jibber, jabber. Good luck.
Author sportygirl89 Posted May 26, 2014 Author Posted May 26, 2014 People can take a long time to grow up. I know it took me a long time. Even if he realises he hurt you, he probably doesn't realise how much, and probably won't unless the same happens to him. Just use this as a learning experience and try to meet somebody who will treat you with respect. But that will mean you are not so dependent on them. I think the secret to a happier life is to keep a constant of close friends as well as a partner. Enough of my jibber, jabber. Good luck. I am having an issue with close friends part. I feel like at almost 25 I am having to create a new group of friends. Hard to find someone reliable and honest.
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