crispywat Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Do i give up, ive been with my gf for 3 months just over, the first few months where great, we had loads of time for each other etc, but one or to ups and downs ....mianly as she has a "male friend" she says they are defo just friends and i now believe her, however i got a little mardy and pushed her about him a little and she said i need to chill. Since then though we wiped slate clean but i compliment her loads, say flirty things etc but never does she reply with you too or anything like that, or even say missing me or cant wait to see you...she used to. I dont know whats up shes just gone really defensive
d0nnivain Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 You have to ask her. You may have pushed her too hard & she has determined that 3 months in this new relationship is too much work.
Author crispywat Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 You have to ask her. You may have pushed her too hard & she has determined that 3 months in this new relationship is too much work. I have asked she says we are ok , but however we have a holidaty we booked together to go on in 4 weeks time, she mght be hanging on for that , i recon she is not into me anymore but maybe im insecure due to it, the lack of effection is really worrying
salparadise Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Three months is about how long it takes for the newness to wear off a new relationship and to start assessing if the compatibility, enthusiasm, respect, trust, affection and attraction are present to the degree that it has legs for the long haul. In the first couple of months everyone is putting their best foot forward and it's hard to tell what they're really like. I don't think you should blame yourself for asking about the male friend, unless you really let it get out of hand. It's natural to be a bit uneasy about male friends and she should understand and try to be reassuring. If her enthusiasm and affection are noticeably diminished at this point it's not a good indicator. If she's not reciprocating, not making an effort to meet your needs too, then it may be a good time to cut your losses. A really good relationship will still have loads of enthusiasm and affection flowing at the three month stage.
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 You have the ability to cancel your planned trip too. If you miss the compliments & communicaton, tell her that sweetly. Don't attack or blame just tell her.
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