SallyHansen Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 The ex and I have a friend in a common so he can see some stuff on my Facebook. Do I adjust my settings so that he can see NOTHING or keep living my life as I have been knowing he can see things?
Author SallyHansen Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 I am no longer friends with the ex but I haven't blocked him. I haven't yet because honestly I don't see any harm in him knowing that I am not devastated and am living my life just fine. Obviously I don't post anything that is bad or about him/relationships..
lollipopspot Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Obviously I don't post anything that is bad or about him/relationships.. If you just post things like cat pictures and recipes, then it doesn't much matter, I reckon. You probably shouldn't be posting a lot of personal stuff regardless, for privacy issues.
Author SallyHansen Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 I don't post anything personal at all just as I didn't when we were together. I just don't want him to think I am scorned over the breakup therefore I have him "blocked".. I'd much rather have him check it and see I am just fine without him
mammasita Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 I am no longer friends with the ex but I haven't blocked him. I haven't yet because honestly I don't see any harm in him knowing that I am not devastated and am living my life just fine. Obviously I don't post anything that is bad or about him/relationships.. It's not really about what he thinks, but you care because you're asking. Just block him.....it's the easiest solution. 2
elseaacych Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Is that mutual friend more your friend or his friend? If more his friend, set the person to restricted. They probably won't notice.
KaliLove Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 I am no longer friends with the ex but I haven't blocked him. I haven't yet because honestly I don't see any harm in him knowing that I am not devastated and am living my life just fine. Obviously I don't post anything that is bad or about him/relationships.. Why do you care what he thinks about you? He's your ex... 1
STM206 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 If you don't want to block the ex, simply change the settings on your status updates so this mutual friend can't see them.
Author SallyHansen Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 I don't want him back but I do not see any reason why I should block him. I figured why not just let him see (if he chooses) how well I am doing. I will admit that I want him to know that our relationship ending hasn't brought me down. And honestly, I hope that irks him some!
Author SallyHansen Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 Because I teeter back and forth between what's best and to be honest what will make him wonder more - being able to see it or not!
MidwestUSA Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Because I teeter back and forth between what's best and to be honest what will make him wonder more - being able to see it or not! So you still care. Block him and be done with it. 1
Author SallyHansen Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 Of course I still care which is why I am so indecisive.....
jbelle6 Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Do you care what the people you dumped are doing on Facebook? I don't. I doubt my ex is thinking much of me at all. Don't bother with the games, they are usually transparent anyways. I see peoples status updates and can tell when they do the fake happy to piss of an ex thing, just looks pathetic.
Author SallyHansen Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 I completely know what you mean.. But I am the one who dumped him..Although my posts aren't anything outside of the norm (from when we were dating), I understand where you are coming from. Plus, allowing him to see make actually have the opposite affect then what I want. He should wondering and I am giving him information that he doesn't need to know.
loversquarrel Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 So you dump him and you want him to know you're doing just fine?? Sounds rather emotionally sadistic on your part... Why would you want to be stalked by someone you dump - am I missing something? 1
Author SallyHansen Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 I ended it because he was emotionally distant for some time and I believed that he cheated.
KaliLove Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 Did you ask him first why he was emotionally distant and if he cheated?
Author SallyHansen Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 Here is my original post http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/474535-possible-sex-addict-who-just-couldn-t-hurt-me-anymore-update
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