How do you guys keep normally Mystery and excitement early in the relationship?

[thelonewolflegend]

I know they say its the norm early in the relationship to keep this up well how do you do that?? I guess what kind of things do you do with a girl or when your with her what do you do and how do you plan out etc.??

[pteromom]

It's not something you have to DO... it's the nature of a young relationship. You are getting to know each other and having new experiences together, so EVERYTHING is mysterious and exciting.

[thelonewolflegend]

not necessarily a girl stopped seeing me a few months after and this was one of the reasons. I didn't do anything out of the blue but wed get together every week and on wknds go out for dinner so yeah.

[d0nnivain]

I don't upend my entire life for the new person I'm dating. I continue to socialize with friends & attend networking events for work. I make time for the new man but I don't cancel everything else just for a date.

 

 

I also don't reveal everything about myself, -- good or bad -- in the 1st date.

[thelonewolflegend]

Well I was told gotta keep women on their feet be mystery and spontaneous and keep it fun and exciting. What are some examples or ways to do this?

[Fondue]

Have limited contact with her between dates.

 

Keep dates super fun, leaving her "wanting more."

 

Make sure you're not available and ACTUALLY have **** to do. You can't just bull**** being unavailable. People see right through that. You actually have to be busy. Friends, hobbies... Hell, maybe even other women.

 

One of the best things that can happen to you on a date is if another girl calls your phone, you look at the incoming call, she will likely glance at your phone, it says "call from Angela," and you hang up in front of her. It shows that A) you have other ladies in your life that want to contact you, and B) they're not good enough as her, because obviously you're ignoring her call in favor of her.

[thelonewolflegend]

Well I was told if they contact you next day you setup date for next week which is what I am doing is that ok?

 

 

Also if girl doesn't contact you do you just hit her up beginning of the week to set up a date?

[d0nnivain]

Well I was told gotta keep women on their feet be mystery and spontaneous and keep it fun and exciting. What are some examples or ways to do this?

 

 

Vary what you do on the dates: dinner & movies are great but mix it up sometimes. Go to a sports event or concert. Take a walk. Play a sport or at least do something active. Be tourists in your own home town or at least near by. For example you'd be surprised by the number of people who live in NYC who have never been to the top of the Empire State Building.

[Fondue]

Well I was told if they contact you next day you setup date for next week which is what I am doing is that ok?

 

 

Also if girl doesn't contact you do you just hit her up beginning of the week to set up a date?

 

Before you setup a date, have a the date completely ready in your mind.

 

As in, day-time/place/activity. You call her (or text, I guess..) and say: "There's this fun bar with some arcades in it that hosts a comedy show every Tuesday. I went there a few months back and had a blast. I'm planning on going there again on Tuesday. Would you like to join me for some beers, games, and share a few laughs?" All she has to do is say, "yes." Women (especially in the early stages) do not want to lead or setup dates. They just want to agree to them. You come off as the ****ing man when you have it all ready to go.

 

Keep that conversation short, sweet, and to the point. Then hangup and see her on Tuesday.

 

Also, dinner/move is boring. Find some other fun stuff to do.

[thelonewolflegend]

bars, walking in parks, arcade, mall, nice dinner, bowling, mini golf. What are some other fun date examples?

[d0nnivain]

Everybody's idea of fun will be different but here are some other suggestions:

 

playing a sport like tennis, golf or croquet together

 

acting like a tourist in your own home town or somewhere nearby

 

go cart racing

 

hanging out at the beach or pool

 

rafting down a river

 

horseback riding

 

having a picnic

 

attending a free concert in the park (bring a picnic)

 

getting ice cream

 

hiking or just walking in the woods

 

bike riding

 

going to a museum or art gallery

 

watching a play even if it's just the local high school or college production

 

taking a cooking or dance class together

 

volunteering somewhere, like habitat for humanity or on a local politician's campaign

 

taking a dinner cruise

 

Star gazing either outside or at a planetarium

 

going to a street fair

 

watching fireworks

 

exploring a nearby historical place

[Haydn]

Stay in bed watching football. Order an Indian. Eat go back to bed.

[almond]

Surprise buttsex. Never fails.

[Under The Radar]

Surprise buttsex. Never fails.

 

 

 

Meetup.com is certainly ambitious these days ...... how progressive of them ...... LOL.

[thelonewolflegend]

With women when you are first dating them to keep them interested and not be repetitive habitual and keep them on their feet etc..? How do you be a challenge to them and have them I guess think don't have them or whatever? Guess have trouble understanding