Sweetnothing Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 So I've been on 7 dates with this guy. He's initiated all the dates and has so far seemed interested in me. He's a little shy though and doesn't have much of a relationship history. He's not the best looking guy in the world and he can be a little self conscious, so my friend said if I wanted to see where we were going I should just be honest with him about how I felt. Last time we hung out I told him that I really liked him and that I felt a connection without going too over the top. He said something to the effect of "I think you're cool" and that was it. I didn't say I wanted to be his girlfriend and I made sure I didn't come off as pressuring him I just wanted to see if he felt the same. We have plans to go out on Tuesday night but ever since I told him how I felt he's been super distant and texts less and less. I'm starting to think he just wants to date casually and I'm not interested in that. I know 7 dates isn't that many and some guys take longer to commit than others but I deserve to at least know if we're on the same page. Should I just forget this guy? Should I ask him flat out what he wants or should I take his response to our last talk as a hint that he doesn't want anything serious and save myself the embarrassment of him having to tell me that he's just not that into me? Or am I making a big deal out of nothing?
jt27 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 If you really like him then just be up front with him about how you feel and ask him how he feels. It's a totally fair thing to do. I think 7 dates is plenty to ask this sort of thing. If he isn't into you, it's better to know as soon as possible.
stateofgrace Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 I think 7 dates is enough for you to ask him what he's looking for. Don't be afraid to express how you're feeling. If you didn't pressure him into being official and just told him how you feel, then there's nothing wrong with that at all. He may not even realize he's being distant. Or maybe it freaked him out, who knows. Either way, when you guys hang out next, just straight up ask him what he's looking for and see what he says. If he says he's looking for casual dating, then tell him you are looking for a relationship and aren't interested in casual dating (if that's the case), and that's that. He won't know what you're looking for unless you ask!
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