mysteriouschic Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 I've been seeing him for about 1-2 months. He's 5 years older than me I'm 20. I've had other trainers two other before I use one of them on/off none of them have ever touched me. He wasn't so touchy feely at the start. He seems to be getting more touchy the more I have him. Usually during cable rows he might occasionally touch my shoulder or back to straighten me. This time he had me do those rows again but had to pull my arm to hit off his hand each time he'd hold my shoulder at the same time. He's started tapping me a lot or patting my shoulder at the end. I had to do glute bridges at the start I didn't get it quite right so he was just showing me helping me correct after when I'd gotten it right he held on to my leg I had to do a hip thrusting motion. It felt almost sexual in a way. He went a little red during it sometimes he'd watch me from where he was or he'd watch in the mirror. Another time he had me deadlift an he'd stood right beside me close there was lots of space around before he showed me he rubbed my arm a little to move over instead of him just moving away to the space around to show me. There's more stuff He's helped me out with other workout things I didn't ask him to do like gone out of his way to help me. He's personal when emailing an uses smileys less formal. He seems happy around me but quieter waiting for me to start conversations except workout stuff he's a confident guy. Does he like me or what? Is that normal touching or flirting? I know some level of touching is normal his seems personal.
halfcrazed_i Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 I think he's being a good personal trainer... that's all. I don't have one, but in the gym I go to, all the personal trainers do those to their clients. And there are even some personal trainers that volunteer to correct my postures or how I use the equipment without me asking for their help (even though I'm not their client). So unless there are other things you didn't mention, I don't think he's going out of his way to show you that he likes you. And if he sees happy around you -- well, you are paying him for his time. So I hope he is. 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 He's not as personal with others I've seen him with .
Emilia Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Try to find a more personal angle. Try to get him open up a bit, talk about his personal life, etc. See how he responds.
johnpatric Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 He is kinda nice with you, if you like him then just try to give him some signs from your side you he can read your signal and may be also find out that you like him and may be he will try to ti make a first move.
Author mysteriouschic Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 Should I try to touch him? or flirt through what I say?
jbelle6 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Could just be pervy like mine was lol. If he's interested he will ask you out somewhere besides the gym.
Author mysteriouschic Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 I don't think he's pervy he does the touching in a nice way just more personal. I think he may be testing the waters.
d0nnivain Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 He may simply be more tactile then others. From the touching alone especially if it was to correct your form, I can't say that he likes you. What do you talk about when he trains you? Does he touch you other than to correct your form? Emoticons in e-mail are a substitute for context because you can't hear a tone in a e-mail. They don't mean anything.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 It doesn't sound particularly flirty from what you've described. And honestly, emoticons carry so little value. Lots of people use them to punctuate their thoughts; I wouldn't interpret smiley faces to mean much at this point.
Author mysteriouschic Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 (edited) He may simply be more tactile then others. From the touching alone especially if it was to correct your form, I can't say that he likes you. What do you talk about when he trains you? Does he touch you other than to correct your form? Emoticons in e-mail are a substitute for context because you can't hear a tone in a e-mail. They don't mean anything. Not all the touching has been to correct the form some is just closer than normal. I know some touching may be needed at times. He's touched my arm like rubbed when we were standing close before he showed me something. An that time when I had to touch his hand all the time usually he wouldn't do that only correct my shoulder occasionally the touching off his hand thing seemed flirty an the way he'd move in closer an tap my shoulder at the end smiling. The leg thing I did have my posture right at the time he decided to hold it . And seemed to blush or go red at that time It feels like there is some attraction there . He seems quieter around me but happy when I make conversation an he'll continue . He doesn't seem as personal with other people. Edited May 22, 2014 by mysteriouschic
d0nnivain Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 If it seems more personal touching to you, keep him talking. Get him onto other subjects & see where it goes. Find a way to make it clear to him that you would say yes if he asked you out.
Author mysteriouschic Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 If it seems more personal touching to you, keep him talking. Get him onto other subjects & see where it goes. Find a way to make it clear to him that you would say yes if he asked you out. How would I do that? At the moment we seem close body language wise. What sort of things would I bring up?
d0nnivain Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Early in the week, ask him what he did over the weekend. Later in the week ask him about his plans. If he mentions something you enjoy, tell him you like that. If he mentions something romantic, compliment him saying "Oh your GF is so lucky that you take her there. I wish I was dating a guy who'd take me places like that." He's either going to give you encouragement on getting a guy or he will immediately disclaim having a GF then you can say something very forward like "It's shame someone as cute & nice as you is single". Touch him & look into his eyes when you say this. 1
Author mysteriouschic Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 Early in the week, ask him what he did over the weekend. Later in the week ask him about his plans. If he mentions something you enjoy, tell him you like that. If he mentions something romantic, compliment him saying "Oh your GF is so lucky that you take her there. I wish I was dating a guy who'd take me places like that." He's either going to give you encouragement on getting a guy or he will immediately disclaim having a GF then you can say something very forward like "It's shame someone as cute & nice as you is single". Touch him & look into his eyes when you say this. Sounds a bit forward I'd feel weird if I said that. I'll maybe wait til I'm talking to him a lot more.
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 You don't have to use my exact words. I wasn't trying to write you a script. That was just one idea how to get the conversation going in that direction. You do have to keeo him talking.
Author mysteriouschic Posted May 23, 2014 Author Posted May 23, 2014 You don't have to use my exact words. I wasn't trying to write you a script. That was just one idea how to get the conversation going in that direction. You do have to keeo him talking. We haven't spoken that deeply yet should I try talking to him about his work if he enjoys it , asking him how he got into it etc.
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