datingnoob93 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 OK so I used to think you had to take a girl out a minimum of 3 times before finally getting some action. I did this all last winter and early spring. I spent quite a bit of money doing everything from fine dinning and movies to skiing, bowling and ice skating. I got laid once (4th date) and friendzoned every other time. Some just disappeared entirely after the first date. So I tried a different approach. No more first dates at 4 star restaurants. After getting a number, I either invite them to hang out at my place (implicit), or I text them a cheeky pickup line basically asking for sex (explicit). It works less than a third of the time (even less with the explicit approach), but it has worked. Several times. At no cost to me whatsoever. Best of all the dating dynamic is turned around entirely. After having sex, she wants to date ME instead of the other way around. So she's asking me to hang out with her, instead of me having to beg her for the opportunity to wine and dine her. Now I undertand why I was having so little success before. Women WANT to put out early too. They get bored by somebody that tries the hard way to romance them. That guy gets friendzoned. No way I'm doing that again. Your thoughts on this approach ??? 2
Imported Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 I think you made some good points and if it works for you and gets you what you want without misleading, then good for you. I am sure this is about as upfront and honest with a girl as it gets. Personally, I like "wining and dining" and taking a girl out to nice places/restuarants. Most of the times, it's not about getting them to have sex with me. I do enjoy their company. But yes, lots of women that really like sex.
Assasda Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 hahaha, its a little sleaseball way of looking at it. But wine take someone to a 4 star restaurant, that you dont even know? For that matter, why beg anyone that you dont even know to hang out with you? Never try too hard, for someone you dont know. I agree 100%
starrynightz45 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 .....or you COULD be more reasonable and instead of doing 4 star restaurants, go out for a more modest dinner, or coffee, or etc. If you're just looking to get laid have fun and keep up the sleezy texts. If you're looking for substance, you need a re-evaluation.
halfcrazed_i Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Hey... whatever floats your boat I'm glad you found a thing that works out for you. But yeah, I can imagine why that approach wouldn't work for other people.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Yep you've been doing it wrong. You have to move fast with girls and create opportunities because they do actually want sex. They will resent you or auto reject you if you make them wait too long. The whole wait until the 3rd date thing is just social conditioning, they don't want to be seen as a sloot, just takes some expectation managing. 1
jeanne_girl Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 .....or you COULD be more reasonable and instead of doing 4 star restaurants, go out for a more modest dinner, or coffee, or etc. If you're just looking to get laid have fun and keep up the sleezy texts. If you're looking for substance, you need a re-evaluation. I agree with this. There's no need to go to the best restaurant in town. More modest restaurants sometimes can provide a nicer atmosphere for both of you. However, if you're planning on implementing this dating technique from now on and what you really want is sex, I gotta give it to you, it's good that a guy just flat out says he wants sex and does not misleads me. If it's what I want, I can just go along with it. If it's not, I will be grateful I'm not wasting my time.
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