guest Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 I am having a dilemma. I have been with my bf for a year and a half. he graduated last may and moved home which pushed us into a LDR. now that hes back after 7 months, he still wants to have sex everynight, while i just want to lay and cuddle, get back into the swing of things. i am tired of covering my body so he wont start kissing it. he just kisses my boobs and stuff, its like why cant you kiss my cheek. if we dont have sex he gets quiet cause he says with his hard on its hard for him to be closer to me without the sex. i just feel like my body is not being respected. sex is expected because its been something so close and nice between us. i am just tired of sex being an issue in the relationship. should we stop having sex and get back to our roots?
Lil Honey Posted February 10, 2005 Posted February 10, 2005 Guest: Sometimes guys fail to remember or realize that women need a bit of warming up first. Because men and women are wired differently, they are ready at the drop of a hat and we need attention. You should have a talk with him away from the bedroom. Explain to him that you haven't seen each other in a while and you want/need to feel important. Try to make him understand that just going at it makes you feel used (if that's how you feel). If he cares for you, he will want to make you comfortable and happy and it will return to him ten-fold. With any luck, his attention will be sincere and genuine - and frequent. Edited to add: You say that you have to keep covering up your body to keep him from kissing it. If you go to bed together naked, he is probably interpreting that as you wanting to get some. I don't think a man, laying against a naked woman would think that she wants to read a good book.
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