bubbaganoosh Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 I found this great site about No Contact. It really gives a great explanation on keeping your door closed. I'm doing the NC, but I broke after 2 days. Silly, right? But I'm back on track. Here's what I wanted to share with you. Hope that helps some. Or something a bit more simple. It's like Lucy pulling the football away just as Charlie Brown is read to kick it. Every time she promises not to do it again and he buys it every time.
JustC Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 If I were you and some man was doing this to me I would have already labeled him as a stalker. Are you accidentally speaking to her when she calls with these other numbers or do you never pick up so she leaves voicemails? How do you know it's her? I've had a couple of exes go nuts on me before and there isn't ONE way to deal with it because it depends on the person/ what the relationship was/ whatever. Generally, for me, I have either let them know that I'm happy in another relationship with someone else, threatened to call the cops, or actually gotten a restraining order. You can love someone to bits but 9 months is far too over the top to be anything other than bad intentions. It's refusal to respect your feelings and wishes and only holding their OWN in esteem.
Ordinaryday Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 don't respond UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES unless she sends "dumping you was the biggest mistake I have ever made. I will do whatever it takes, please I want to reconcile with you!". she is just trying to alleviate her guilt and possibly use/take advantage of you because maybe you can do something for her so she wants to form a 'friendship' with her so you will help her out in some way. I was always helping my ex out financially by loaning (well giving, cos she never gave any back) her money and a month after she dumped me she sent me a text asking me to 'loan' her one hundred dollars. I just ignored it, not my responsibility any more. or finally, she may want an ego-boost by seeing if you are still hooked and stringing you along. it is telling that even though she has texted you a lot not once has she said "I want you back, please take me back" and you know why she hasnt said that? cos she DOESNT WANT YOU BACK!! It is a breadcrumb, she wants to alleviate her guilt, get an ego-boost or take advantage of you by getting you to do a favour for her (or a combination of all three)! she is just wasting your time. dont respomnd 2
Author movingonnow1 Posted May 22, 2014 Author Posted May 22, 2014 I'm not sure what I am going to do if she contacts me again...I guess I am going to wait and see how I feel when it happens / if it happens. Chances are I'll respectfully tell her to not contact me again and leave it at that.
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