FitChick Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 ...according to studies from Cornell University and Queens University. Good news for those of us who do it. Not for the emotionally needy though.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I saw this article last week and ended up sending it to my boyfriend YAYYYY for LDR!!!!!!
salparadise Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Interesting article, although I think a lot of it is pure speculation with regard to people's motives and psychological predispositions. I engaged in a long-distance relationship for about a year and a half, the two of us taking turns traveling 500 miles every other week. We were pretty serious, or at least we thought so at the time. It takes a lot of commitment to keep a schedule like that. I liked the travel, the intensity of the visits and the relief and solitude in between. We talked on the phone every night, usually for more than an hour, often three. It was the right thing at the right time for me (first real relationship post divorce), and apparently for her as well. I've done shorter distances since then (one and two hours), and am now dating someone local (met in real life). I prefer local, but you can't always choose where you find a connection with someone who meets your basic criteria, and you theirs. I'd do it again for the right person––definitely. But I think the bar is considerably higher now in terms of attraction and optimism. But that's easy to say when you're getting great sex and good company only five miles away.
Frank2thepoint Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Interesting article. I can intellectually understand with technology, hooking up or instant flings, can kill long-term romance. So a long distance relationship now compensates for the required patience and built up excitement of meeting, pre-Information Age relationships had. But with the Information Age, the search for love has globalized, not restricting you to find someone within a five mile radius of your locale.
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