thethe Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Hi My ex and I broke up a little over two weeks ago. She said she doesn't know how she will feel in the future, but she doesn't think she will ever attempt a relationship with me that is headed towards the long term. She said that she moving on and that I need to let her go and let myself go. She said it's not meant to be. She also said that she is not opposed to being friends online or acquaintances in real life. Not sure what to do. Obviously move on, but should I stay in contact? Should I try to get back with her? If so, how?
Zahara Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 but should I stay in contact? Should I try to get back with her? If so, how? 1. No, you should go no contact to try and heal from this. It will help you move on quicker. 2. No, don't try and get back with her because she is telling you she doesn't want to get back with you. Go NC and move on. She is.
Author thethe Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 1. No, you should go no contact to try and heal from this. It will help you move on quicker. 2. No, don't try and get back with her because she is telling you she doesn't want to get back with you. Go NC and move on. She is. So what she is saying is the truth? How do I know it's not just emotions in the moment?
Zahara Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 So what she is saying is the truth? How do I know it's not just emotions in the moment? When someone tells you what you don't want to hear, LISTEN. You work with what she has said to you. It's straightforward. You don't work with what you think, predict, guess, analyze. If it's just her emotions, then maybe one day when her emotions are settled, she'll come back. Until then you accept her word as your truth and move on.
Always Pondering Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Obviously move on, but should I stay in contact? Should I try to get back with her? If so, how? You shouldn't try to "get back together with her" if you're trying to move on, which you should be doing as that is what she wants you to do and you two are already over. I wouldn't stay in contact, all it does is slow down healing/letting go drastically. I'd drive all the way there and bow down to you if you're able to move on while still talking and thinking about her. I believe she's just telling you things to let you down easy but she's already gone, and you should know it by now.
na49 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 What reason do you have to not believe her? If she wanted to be with you, she wouldn't have left.
gardeniagirl Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 This is tough. I don't know what I'd do in that situation either. What do you do when they just don't say anything and give no explanation?
Hello201 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 im in exactly the same boat as you (i think so anyway) and on my third day of no contact http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/477989-she-broke-up-me its hard but you need to look after your self and be strong for you first the friends thing well thats just for their benefit so they feel better and can say look at me im so good why give them what they want , if you stay away you show them what they no longer have
johnpatric Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 Well if you want to get back with her in future then why you guys broke up?? so now just stay there and keep in touch with her. if she will give you good response then it means you still have a chance otherwise forget about her..
jbelle6 Posted May 22, 2014 Posted May 22, 2014 "She also said that she is not opposed to being friends online or acquaintances in real life." She's telling you you aren't even good enough to be real life friends. If ANYONE EVER said that, they'd be dead to me. Mine just said he didn't know if he was in love with me and he's dead to me. Don't have anyone in your life that doesn't know how cute and fabulous you are. Life is too short. 1
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