abby_tx Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 This is probably a dumb question. For the guys out there --- how do you expect to end a date? If you don't get a hug/kiss do you think she wasn't into you? If you don't kiss her, do you think you failed? Girls --- same question! (Inspired by me fearing I'm holding back too much. I don't do any physical contact at all on a date except a hug goodbye IF and only if they initiate it)
David87 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Half the girls i've dated expected to be kissed after the first date...usually, girls let you do this kind of things if they like you and if the date went well.
Just-A-Normal-Guy Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Usually kiss at the end of the date means, 2nd date. Almost always in my experience. No kiss means I blew it because I was too nervous or the date just didn't go well. Either way I say if you want to kiss then you should. Period. 1
David87 Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Usually kiss at the end of the date means, 2nd date. Almost always in my experience. No kiss means I blew it because I was too nervous or the date just didn't go well. Either way I say if you want to kiss then you should. Period. Not necessary because my gf, that I dated for 1.5 years, let me kiss her after the 3'rd date...it depends on many factors. Some girls want to build a brief friendship first.
Just-A-Normal-Guy Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 No I agree with you. That's why I said in my experience. A far as my dating life has gone that's how it has worked out. Obviously one guys experience is not necessarily the standard, which I completely understand. 1
todreaminblue Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I think if you are sensitive enough to the other person you can feel the right thing to do...be it a hug or a soft kiss i feel you have to differentiate friendship from dates......create a chaste intimacy.......if there is such a thing.....as chaste intimacy..... to give promise but not expectation....i think crossing the line on a first date with anything other than a soft kiss or a warm hug is not so promising and more about the next dates expectations ............deb
Author abby_tx Posted May 20, 2014 Author Posted May 20, 2014 Our date was a little over an hour long, so I didn't feel comfortable enough to kiss him. I was just curious what the rest of you do. I think I need to work at not being so hard to read when a date is over. On one date, we left the restaurant and I said, "Well, nice to meet you!" and started walking to my car. He followed me (ugh). At the car it was just incredibly awkward and he looked like he wanted something from me, but didn't make a move or ask me. I said, "Talk to you later" and got in my car.
Gottabestrong Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 If I like a guy, I end the first few dates with a hug and say something like: 'That was great, let's do it again some time!' To let him know I am interested. (By date 3 or 4 we are usually already saying goodbye with a kiss.) If I don't like a guy or don't want to see him again, I act like you - no physical contact and say something noncommittal like 'Thanks for coffee'. Take care.' Hopefully he will get the hint that I am not interested and won't contact me anymore, but if he does than I tell him 'Thank you, but I did not feel a connection. Good luck!'
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 I always opt for the Japanese bow. *remember Ninja, eye-contact all the way down*
sillyanswer Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 For the guys out there --- how do you expect to end a date? If you don't get a hug/kiss do you think she wasn't into you? If you don't kiss her, do you think you failed? I've had good first dates that ended with no kiss (and did lead to second dates) or that ended with a kiss (and didn't lead to second dates) so I don't see a kiss as a strong predictor of the future. If a date doesn't end with (at least) a cheek kiss, which is typically how my first dates begin, then I'll probably assume that she isn't interested because if she's prepared to let a complete stranger kiss her on the cheek at the start of the date but then not do the same with a not-quite-so-complete stranger at the end of the date then that's hardly a good sign! As for 'failure', I think that not getting a second date when I wanted one is a failure, but I don't get too hung up about how the first date ended.
katinlc Posted May 20, 2014 Posted May 20, 2014 Generally, first date ends with a hug initiated by a guy - regardless of interest in a second date but I will say I've yet to have a "bad" date even if there was no interest in further dates. I usually get a text from the guy before I can get home saying they had a good time and want to go out again. If they haven't text by the time I get home and settled, I will text thanks for dinner, coffee, whatever...even if I'm not interested because I think that is polite. It's during this texting conversation that we discuss going out again or if not interested. Second date I think should involve some physical touch - hand holding or whatever, followed by a kiss goodnight. I've also had it go to third date/meeting before kiss. I also never initiate anything for the first time...call me old fashion or a wimp, but that's just me. Note: This is online generated dates so I've never met before 1st meeting/date.
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